Hi everyone
I’m 35 and I’ve had these worries for a while now and I miss my teens when sexual excitement was more intense and you’d get raging hard ons for just looking at a girl.
I struggle from time to time these days with erections especially with a partner and I can’t relax and suffered from death grip and porn addiction for many years and don’t get the same satisfaction through sex and masturbation anymore. I remember when I was younger and I could watch like a porn scene and get incredibly aroused with our even really touching yourself. Now feels like less desire. I still obviously want it which is the frustrating part.
Like I like the idea of a lot of things but the reality of them doesn’t feel good as I’m not jacking off myself. I can mainly finish through my own hand, missionary and handjob with one girl but she had to go very fast.
I’m a foot guy and would love to be able to come through a footjob but the friction and feeling isn’t there.
My brain feels messed up and I just want to be able to enjoy sex and masturbation again. Has anyone ever experienced this ?
I also get this lingering sexual orientation OCD which I’ve never understood as I have always listed for women and still do but I sometimes get this irrational fear of loosing straightness and I don’t want to be with a man or experience anything sexual with one. It makes no sense
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A lot of people on here are going through or have gone through what you’re dealing with. You can’t compare yourself to the younger you because that’s impossible (plus who wants all the other messed up shit that comes with being a kid). You also sound like a lot of us on here in that you overthink everything. You recognize it, good. Now it’s the hard work of stopping feeding the monkey by repeating the same thoughts and worries. Instead, accept who you are as a whole human being, see where you’ve had unhelpful behaviors or patterns, and then focus on where you want to be with sex. Make smaller goals and use the Routine feature. Meditation training can be your friend with untrue or unhelpful repetitive thoughts.
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Focus on who you are now, wherever possible. I’m 36 and finding myself pining for exactly what you’ve described…except that the girls I’m interested in now are my age or older.
Try to be mindful, and in time you will likely accept that the past is…the past…
Im a foot guy too.
Im embarrassed/shamed by it as it’s not considered normal by some.
I’ve recently come out to my 9mo girlfriend after foot rubs and paying some attention to her feet during playtime.
I’ve finally got to the point I can play with her feet during missionary and her various and she knows it. She’s come around to the attention I pay them and begun to allow herself to enjoy my mouth and beard on her feet. It can certainly get/keep me hard when I need a boost….
It’s no different than her really enjoying her nipples played with…
She’s mentioned she’d like me to finish on her toes… that just opened the door to my first FJ…..
Good luck man.
Maybe help her with the FJ.