So i’m here for the same reason you guys are. I’m recently married (2 months), and Mr happy has lost his zing. We had a great deal of stress approaching the wedding, and the honeymoon was difficult due to some tightness issues with my wife, which is kinda when it started for me. She has managed to resolve the tightness with some pelvic floor exercises and now we can have proper sex. (Seriously, to any guys who have a wife with Vaginismus, get her to see a pelvic floor specialist asap) However my erections are about as reliable as the weatherman at the moment.
I really feel for my wife because she feels i’m not attracted to her and that “how can this be so early in our marriage.” I love her so much and she is a beautiful woman so attraction is definitely not the problem there. I’ve tried viagra which only works sometime and i’ve stopped drinking alcohol (due to it supposedly causing ED, was never a big drinker to begin with).
It’s an intermittent issue, I’ll be able to get it up and strong one night, and we’ll have a great time, sometimes even twice!! Then next night, nothing. Even when she jerks it off it goes soft in her hand. Really makes me feel like crap.
So i was thinking, seeing as my problem is psychological, would there be a problem having a few drinks beforehand to calm me down and try to get me in the right headspace?? OR has anyone tried medicinal weed with good effect? Ideally i’d like to avoid relying on any external stimuli, but i really want a backup plan for when we’re in the mood.