I’m 33 now and have only enjoyed sex with one former partner. Most of my encounters have been ONS after drinking and I can never get it up. Have been doing a lot of self therapy and unpacking my childhood where my parents (especially dad) had no boundaries regarding sex. They would regularly have sex in the evening 6/7pmish when I was just in my room playing PlayStation. I could always hear it and it would make me very angry. My dad woul d always come up and make a joke “you might want to close your door” etc. I feel this has negatively impacted my thoughts on sex as I don’t really enjoy it or get excited by it at all and have even avoided it completely for most of my twenties.
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The childhood trauma can really take you down, you have to try to separate your sex life from that of your parents. You are not them and you will not end up like them. Maybe it is that fear that if you will end ip having sex within earshot of your kids which is causing a blockage in your mind. Tell yourself that you are master of your destiny and will make your own choices! Courage brother