Had low arousal for about 3 months now ever since I couldn’t get it up on a one night stand. It’s caused so much anxiety since. I can’t think about sex without being anxious about not getting it up and it’s triggered my ocd in the theme of hocd where I’m constantly doubting if I’m gay or not, never felt gay and still don’t yet I get obsessive what if thoughts about it. Anyway these together have just caused so much anxiety to the point where I’m avoiding sexual encounters and relationships. And I just have no arousal at the minute, I went on holiday with a girl I have a crush on for a day and didn’t have any anxiety. I wanted to get on her so bad, I guess this is a good sign that my low arousal is caused by anxiety? Anyway just wanted to know if anyone’s had anything similar and how did they overcome it?
Sounds like your inner critic is in overdrive. You should concentrate on positive thinking. I read a book called “the heart of buddhas teachings,” and it helped me understand and connect more with positive thinking. I didn’t go into it in a religious sense more of a spiritual one.
Thanks man