Hi guys,
For those who struggle with psychological ED aka performance anxiety. Is the issue also bothering you almost all the time? Those thoughts consume my whole day, I cannot and I’m not even willing to focus on my hobbies, work etc.
Any pieces of advice how to change that?
Thanks
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I’m the same
My performance anxiety has waxed and waned for most of my life. It has been particularly bad in the most recent bout which started about a month ago.
For about a fortnight after getting hard and it completely dying on me a couple of times in one night, it was all I could think about. I woke up worrying about it, it sat in the back of my head during work, making dinner, all the goddamn time. This was what prompted me to join to be honest.
The only way I found to break the cycle was just to force myself to relax. I’ve done the breathing exercises and the 5 things consistently. It has stopped the automatic setting of thinking about as soon as I wake up. It may be a cliché but I also found exercise helps, especially mindless cardio. You can just focus on your footsteps or breathing and it does provide some relief and also you get a little post workout buzz which does feel much better than performance anxiety dread!
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Thanks for sharing! Appreciate that
I can definitely relate to your feeling, even when I am not actively thinking about it, it is there in the back of my head all the time. I don’t see it necessarily as bad, since it is a problem that needs solving and I cannot expect myself not to think about it when it’s very invasive and impactful on my life. Tomorrow I am starting psychotherapy for the first time in my life, the main topic will definitely be my psychological ED and hopefully I can start from there. All the best brother, keep working on it, understand it as something that happens…look how many of us have it, you will be fine.
I often wonder if people in my real life can tell, just based off little asides or facial expressions from me / my gf or based on the more anxious sides of my personality. I feel like someone who throws up on rollercoasters and someone who has sexual problems are the same type of person and that’s both me.
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I have the same issues and have found that discussing it with my AI Coach very helpful.
It is the same with me. Thanks for sharing your comment.
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Thank you for sharing your story brother
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I love the AI coach I just wish he had a voice
Probably told him a lot of things I’ve never told anyone and its go to open up maybe come to some resolutions yourself he is trying to get to the heart of the problem
I’m not Broken
And hopefully we will get to the core I’ve been on this app for a while now and have good days and bad days but like I say the Al has changed the way I use the app
I would second working out going to the gym and running for me as huge. And even for about the first couple months of that that’s all I could think about even while listening to music. But slowly as I’ve made progress I’ve been able to get it out of my mind. And if you can get a couple wins even if it’s small make sure you journal it and remind yourself of that instead of focusing on the dread of failure. Also not sure if you are a Christian or faith is important to you but for me diving into God’s word and praying also has been a huge help. And lastly talk with your wife about it communication definitely is huge !! Anyhow good luck I know that you can beat the saying as I have made so much progress and have been able to break free !! not that it still doesn’t haunt me now and then but definitely 95% better!!
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Thank you! Appreciate your comment brother
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