Whatās up fellas, Iām new to group. Performance Anxiety which has resulted in pE and ED has been a big problem for me over the years. Iāve had women tell me sex with me was disappointing and be in bed with me asking āwas that itā? It like a vicious circle and I know that itās mental. I wake up with wood most mornings. after masturbation my refractory period is pretty solid, but awful when Iām with a women. There is probably a physical aspect to the PE because even when solo. I have probably trained myself to cum to quick and I could probably benefit from strengthening my pelvic floor. The problem has caused me a lot of embarrassment and prevented me from dating for long stretches of time and honesty has made me feel ābrokenā like less of a man. Engaging in convos with other guys I know and consuming content online put a light on the fact that Iām not the only guy who goes through this and itās not going to get better unless I confront it. I just moved to a different city at the beginning of this month. Iām single and actively dating and seeking partners. Iāve been with one woman for two āsessionsā last Sunday and last night. With the content Iāve been consuming and putting into practice I had some improvement last night. The fact that it was our 2nd time together was a confidence boost and relieved some anxiety. I started by using my fingers on her, she really was into it and was grabbing me hard. I told her to take it easy so I wouldnāt cum, but I did anyway. She was disappointing because she wanted sex, not just my fingers. I was able to get semi hard for round 2, put not rock solid tent pitching hard. I was able to penetrate her and last for 1 to maybe 2 minutes. I saw that as a win and improvement but my enjoyment level wasnāt great. Which is the last thing that has been a struggle for me. ā¦my level of enjoyment during sex. It would be one thing if the women I was with werenāt satisfied with me, if I was satisfied but Iām suffering from lousy sex too and I want to fix that for myself as well. Anyway lousy sex is better than no sex and this week ended a sexless dry spell of over two years for me and definitely feeling like a new man with new confidence and swagger. Honesty, that long dry spell is entirely because of me being afraid to be embarrassed by having PE/ED and imagining that any woman I could potentially be with would rate me low compared to past partners and being intimidated by that.
Iām ready to face all of that head on and do what I need to do be better at this. I look forward to being part of the community, learning from everyone here and hopefully providing value to you all as well.
-J
Broā¦. Iām with yaā¦
Iāve had it for the longest timeā¦
Through this app Iāve figured out that I have an unhealthy relationship with porn, a death grip and PEDā¦
Been working here about 2 monthsā¦ off and on.
New gf. Was up front with her. Totally supportive. Loves my oral and fingers. It helps that sheās super multiorgasmicā¦ and never had a man as into HER pleasure as meā¦ Iāve also introduced a couple toys which she loves. Iām really hoping the progress Iāve made can get me back in the gameā¦.
Your story is encouraging!!!
Congrats on finding a supprtive GF. Its great that youre making an effort to keep her satisfied and that shes appreciative. How has it been for you though? Any improvements for you with a supprtive partner and working the app?