I am so aroused during sex that I can’t control my ejaculation. I get so horny, and my partners love having sex with me because of the way I enjoy them. I get so horny that I worship their bodies and I get extremely sexual and kinky in bed.
But, I think that’s why I cum fast. Does anyone feel that way? That they get aroused during sex more than normal? And that contributes to premature ejaculation?
This was my entire existence too or so I thought. It turns out it is anxiety based. Calming down and taking time to enjoy it rather based on many of these techniques has practically cured it.
@zippy-coffee-pigeon if you don’t mind me asking how did you know that this or yours was based on anxiety?
To be honest. I started seeing a sex therapist privately. I just thought I was too excited or sensitive and as soon as we started talking it was just apparent it was anxiety based. I have a high performance style job and basically live day to day at max speed. The mental exercises on here have been great though. At one point I wouldn’t be able to penetrate at all without coming. Now I’m doing what ever I want. One way I loved was visualising myself talking back to my myself saying ‘calm down what the fuck are you pent up about. Your here for fun not stress etc’ i also noted I used to hold my breath (I’m sounding like an idiot) as soon as I started deep breathing it stopped the cycle.
Basically all of these things in here will help. Little by little but trust the process. Be consistent and communicate with the person you’re with. Tell them all about it, laugh about it, stop for a few minutes but keep practicing 