So when j first ever had sex I lasted 2 hours without cumming. First few times having sex I was lasting long and it was very enjoyable but soon it changed to cumming in a few minutes. Ever since then I’ve been busting so fast almost immediately.
I’m 23 now. Been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years and this has been an issue since day 1. I can count on my hand how many times we actually had long enjoyable sex 30min—1.5hrs
But it’s been such a random few amount of times
I know my drive is good because I get strong erections all the time everyday and I get very turned on but as soon as we have sex I bust within seconds of putting it in. This has put a huge toll on our relationship as she wants to have sex but just can never get into enjoyment of it
I’ve been told it’s all a mental issue with cumming and I can think back to years ago when I was having sex with my girl that I all of a sudden got into my head and have had such terrible anxiety and stress about this all ever since and with every girl since then
Since it’s just mental — do I need to have a meditation practice and other mental courses here in mojo?
I have had such poor mental health from it all and tried so many things
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I’ve suddenly started experiencing the same problem 3 x very recently so I can imagine a sense of what you are experiencing.
I know it has everything to do with my mental and emotional state re sex and intimacy. I get overly anxious (excited) [weird the metaphor that comes to mind is like a puppy so excited that it pee’s itself] that’s how excited I get about sex and how anxious I fet about my wife’s reaction to me wanting sex etc.
That’s why I’m doing this journey.
For me it’s take a breath relax do the exercises trust the process. The first activity on mojo around identifying the inner critic was really useful and I’m working on hearing and responding to this with reality statements
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Hey yes, first let me say you’re in the right place and it sounds like you’ve got a growth mindset – yes you have an issue but if you work on it, it will get better. I’d encourage you to stick to Mojo and do atleast one exercise a day to get the most out of it.
Finally just want to say that change doesn’t happen over-night but is something you build up to. Other members have reported communicating with their partners as really helping to take the pressure off in fixing it immediately and may be a route you’d want to try out!
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