Breathing exercises… Do we do them before sex? During sex (weird). In the heat of the moment, I feel like I breath heavily and enjoy the moment, albeit not hard. Does doing breathing exercises at the time help anybody?
Also, this inner coach thing… I don’t get it. I try to identify my inner critic but can’t. I just don’t get hard every time, or hard enough. There’s no little voice telling me stuff. I’m not sure I’m getting this bit. Is it something to do every day, or at the time it happens?
I’ve been doing kegels and I’ve noticed nighttime erections and morning erections more. So I think they work.
I just don’t go hard but I get a lot of pre cum, which is a bit embarrassing and uncomfortable.
Any thoughts or suggestions, please?
I’m 52.
Thanks guys.
For me - I do breathing exercises when I feel panicked or before I meet someone. Sometimes right before sex (gets easier with time, but like you said at first in the moment it’s distracting). I don’t think I could do during. It helps calm me before.
Maybe you don’t have a strong inner critic - that’s good! Again mine shows up in the days and hours before sex. Not always a voice, but me thinking I’ll fail or it won’t work.
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Yeah I get the thoughts of it will fail or not get hard. I guess that is the inner critic. So maybe I just think to myself… You did it before and first thing this morning it was there - you can do it champ!
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Personally I use calming breathwork to start and end my day. Sometimes I add in some positivity meditation (saying joy on the inhale and peace on the exhale in my head). I will also use it if I’m feeling anxious and if that doesn’t work I do a grounding exercise. I have found it’s helped me, but it took time. It’s not an overnight fix.
Try and find a routine that works for you. If it doesn’t, then that’s fine, try something else and keep trying until something clicks.