I’ve had this issue for years now, but basically I can’t get hard or stay hard with a new girl or girl I haven’t been with for a while because I get in my head so much. I’m always worried about whether I’m good enough, big enough etc for the girl and whether she’s even interested. This builds into getting worried about being hard or staying hard and all of a sudden I’m soft.
The worst part is I know I’m good in bed when I am hard and I know the girl is interested in me, otherwise she would be there.
It’s got to a stage where I get so nervous I don’t bother bringing girls home or meeting them because I’m worried about not getting hard.
Any advice would be great.
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I can relate to this 100%. I also avoid bringing new partners back to my place because I am worried that I won’t be able to perform. Without the safety of familiarity, the anxiety/excitement is overwhelming.
Yeah that’s exactly it, I’m wondering if some proper therapy would help. Maybe to understand why we put so much pressure on ourselves.