I generally don’t have an issue getting it up but when I get in my head about how long I’m going to last. I’ve been married 7 years and always had the issue of finishing really fast. I am very aroused by my wife but I find it near impossible to not focus on how sensitive I am every time we have sex. I have tried most desensitizing items but they don’t seem to make a difference on how sensitive the penis head is. I have pulled out and waited multiple times but the head never seems to reduce in sensitivity. I know me getting in my head about it doesn’t help but it’s gets more difficult knowing my partner isn’t being satisfied.
Anyone got any ideas on how to reduce penis sensitivity?
I understand where you’re coming from regarding cumming sooner than you want. I’m in my late fifties and while I had some PE issues back in the day, now, thanks to age and other factors, I have the opposite problem–not enough sensitivity at times, making climaxing challenging. I’d just say to avoid desensitizing products because you don’t really want less sensitivity. Perhaps try not focusing on how quickly you ejaculate and turn your energy to being present with yourself and your partner. Enjoy whatever kind of sex you’re having, enjoy yourself, and enjoy your partner. If you ejaculate, so what? Erections come and go, as do orgasms. If the goal is mutual pleasure and enjoyment instead of lasting X number of minutes, strokes, whatever, you can often learn to relax and enjoy whatever happens. Is your wife really upset about your performance or is that you?
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And there are lots of ways to satisfy your partner even if you’ve cum and lose your erection. Get creative. Sometimes continuing to have sex even after you’ve climaxed can turn into a second round for you where you get hard again and aren’t as quick to shoot. Nothing wrong with ejaculating 2-3 times in one session (or only one or not at all). Really, there are lots of ways to have “successful sex.” Try to explore some without worrying about performance.
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I have the same issue, but I’ve realized it’s in my head vs actually being too sensitive. Realizing that has helped me tremendously, as well as some of the breathing activities to deactivate fight or flight. Keep trying and applying some of the exercises, hopefully they pull you out of your head too! Good luck!
My wife is very upset about it and it’s become an apparent issue. She associates it with not achieving her needs and not having the connection we should. It’s something I want to improve but her dissatisfaction makes it more difficult. I have come to think certain desensitization product honestly might best because of how sensitive it is. I wish I could say it was less sensitive like yourself to be able to enjoy being in her. It’s sad how bad of an issue it’s become. I wish there a quicker fix now method in terms of helping reduce feeling but not inhibit an erection.
I’ve tried to get out of head for along time and even when what I’d consider a rather calm state I am very overly sensitive on the penis head area. I have noticed the breathing techniques do help but even as I focus on the body it’s hard not to focus on how sensitive the end of the penis head is. I will keep up the techniques as they do appear to help.
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Have you tried making her climax before you penetrate, cunnllingus mainly and maybe a toy, vibrator ? Then if she can climax before you start that might shake the worry you have before you’ve started and then build on from there. Hopefully u toy can discuss this with her and get her on board.