I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now but I still haven’t been able to cum from her touch. If I’m lucky I’ll be able to make myself cum but 9/10 I’m left embarrassed and sad that I can’t cum with her.
I’ve had a look and pretty sure it’s deathgrip syndrome since I’ve never had a problem wanking watching porn. It’s getting to the point where I get so anxious when my girlfriend stays over that the pressure to cum is so high I can’t concentrate on what’s happening.
Bro. I’m with ya.
I haven’t finished without my own touch in 10 years.
(Bad marriage…)
I’ve been working on it. I’ve given up 90% porn and solo. When I do go solo, I try to use a good lube and a light touch or a silicone sleeve. I’ve tried playing a game with myself going soft and slow. When I get the urge to speed up, I imagine that she’s doing it and “this is all you get!!!” And it worked. When I finished, it was really good.
Same here. No one has ever been able to make me cum from manual or oral stimulation in years and it’s rare if I cum with a partner. My current girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I have yet to finish with her. Like you said, I get so in my head and feel so pressured to cum that it’s distracting from the actual sex.