For those of you who have found success using Mojo, what did your routine look like for example did you only use the app on a daily basis or did you use everything you learned on the app to develop a weekly routine which worked for you. Can you share that routine for example?
Should I use Mojo on a daily basis and also start box breathing, soft penis pleasuring, root pleasuring, etc. everyday? Just the app alone hasnât been helping me as much as Iâd thought
So I wouldnât claim to have achieved âsuccessâ quite yet, although I did get hard enough with a new partner on our first time together yesterday to have sex (although I misplaced my condoms, dâoh!) after a week of using Mojo.
For me, itâs understanding the fundamental message of all the mini courses in the round, which is we basically need to be less like thinking, rational humans, and more like primal, horny cavemen. The mindfulness exercises, focus on what you can see, hear, smell, donât listen to a nagging internal monologue, are the most helpful.
When things were going well yesterday it was when I was just feeling my partners skin, listening to her enjoy herself and noticing what was external and not internal. Easier said than done but itâs possible. My heart was pounding like crazy yesterday and I began by really spectatoring, panicking and was totally soft, so itâs possible to get to a better place even in the same evening. Good luck!
To be a bit more practical, maybe do some of the positive visualisation thatâs recommended on the app. Imagine youâre walking into the bedroom. Instead of thinking about your own thoughts, youâre thinking about how it will feel to passionately embrace, what sound sheâs likely to make when you hold her and kiss her, how it will feel when you take your t shirt off and she touches your back, etc., etc. Youâll just be âthinkingâ I can see this and I like it, I can feel this and I like it, etc. Visualise it and try to basically expect thatâs whatâs going to happen, and instead of fearing the next time try to feel excited for it. Thatâs my plan anyway!
I would explore the site. Read all the posts and responses. Thereâs a lot of good stuff here.
I work in the app daily. I quit porn and solo about 90%.
I try to stay in the moment when with gf.
I have a routine Iâm following at bedtime and in the am.
20 kegels. 20 reverse kegels. 20 deep abdomen breaths with abs clenched. 4-5 min of box breathing. At night I end with a meditation from the explore tab. Iâve seen an improvement.
Something else Iâve done that may have helped is visualize a scene youâve had with her or a fantasy. -In vivid detail, and write it down. Look for a thread titled - Whatâs your foreplay like??
I describe 2 scenes that weâve actually done. I took some liberties and embellished a bit, but 99% of them both are real and how they went down. I often think of those hot times when my dick isnât cooperatingâŚ. Iâm actually going to write more as it really turns me on to chronicle our experiences. I sent her a snippet of one of them randomly one day and she liked it. Weâre going to read one together soon and see where it goesâŚ.
Do you think this routine is something youâll have to keep up for life?
Not sure if Iâll need to keep the kegels up for life⌠honestly theyâre not a big deal and have become a habit.
lol. Just like porn/solo play wasâŚ.
So itâs different for different people, but PA isnât really something âfor lifeâ with the same partner once youâve overcome it, because itâs a psychological issue not a physical issue (if youâve got physical ED thatâs a whole other thing). If youâve had successful, enjoyable sex many times with someone, youâre less likely to feel anxious around them or like youâve got something to prove, so being in your head lessens as an issue I think. I know thatâs not universal but psychological ED is pretty curable over time.
Hearing you colorful, itâs interesting you suggesting that we should go primal⌠I 
agree. Last time I was with my gf and I kinda did that. Just focused on what was in front of me: A beautiful woman that wants desperately to please me and have fun for the next couple hours! It worked for the most part. I focused on her sexy legs and cute feet in my face and I was able to go for 10-15 min (slowly as I was only 75%ish hardâŚ) but that was a huge win for me!
Itâs going to to take some time and might be something you always need to work on. For me the kegels and reverse kegels. Focusing the mind away on senses like touch and temperature or taste and away from your erection of lack of it. Be present and focusing not on the erection but the things that may cause you to get one if that makes sense. Also being able to focus away for a bit of youâre getting too stimulated until you calm down. Depends on your particular issues I suppose
One thing thatâs seemed to click for me is the mindfulness exercises, and basically seeing it as a sort of sexy version of the mindfulness you do on your own. In mindfulness, you still have that inner monologue going but you just sort of let it go rather than engage with it and try and focus back on your breathing or whatever. So during sex Iâm guessing Iâll still think âOh fuck what if I donât get it up, sheâs going to think Iâm lame or a let downâ but instead of getting in my head Iâm just going to think âOK, thereâs a predictable anxious thought I knew Iâd get, but whatâs more interesting is this hot naked woman underneath meâ and just listen to her breath quicken, feel her skin and muscles under my hands as I grab her thighs, and just let myself feel like an animal acting on instinct rather than ignoring whatâs in front of me to think stupid unhelpful thoughts.
Colorful, EXACTLY!
Iâve got this hottie that wants to make me feel good as much as I want to make her feel good! Sheâs said many times- âif we have actual sex, thatâll be a bonus- Iâm 100% satisfied with what goes on in the bedroom!â She usually has to ask me to stop as I really get turned on making her cum with my tongue, fingers or a toy⌠I like to focus on feeling her tense up, she starts to sweat a little, her breath quicken or stop as she anticipates a wave of orgasm, or the way she whispers âplease??â as sheâs getting close⌠Fuck, Iâm getting turned on right now typing thisâŚ
I have not seen her in a couple weeks- sheâs away taking care of her mom who just had a hip replaced. Thursday CANNOT com soon enough⌠Have a great week!
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