It’s hard for me. I’m in my head all the time. Kissing passionately sometimes help get my mind off things
Maybe having my partner put on the condom.
I think for me, whenever I want to keep things hot, I slow down. I want satisfy my partner so much that I tire myself out by turning into a jackhammer, which kills my boner, but if I take things slow, and just feel her body things start roaring back up.
Trying to keep my mind focused on my partner’s body and the thoughts that come with that, don’t put all your mental focus on using the condom
Taking it slow and being upfront about needing patience.
I have some anxiety around penetration and being inside my partner. Sometimes it helps for her to give hand jobs if I get soft. Though it’s not perfect because it still adds to the “why can’t I keep it up” for me. And the “why aren’t you enjoying being inside me?” For her.
We thry to talk about it, i kis her, give her a masage play with her, make sure she comes, but after that but unless I had taken a pill the onely way for me to get hard right now it to masturbates by myself, and I’m still used to “death grip” Idont know how to change it
If I let her take control I can stay hard through organism but otherwise I start spectating and deflate
having music on in the background is good, breathing exercises seems to work. First and foremost, I have to acknowledge and be brave to talk to her about staying connected and letting her know how I feel. I recently discovered that this led to more intimacy because it made me feel heard and understood - this has led to less anxiety which helps with the sexual flow
I kiss and play with her to keep things going. Sometimes it works
I used to get my ex partner to play with my penis while I reach out for the condom and put it on asap before losing erection. This was the only way I could put it one while maintaining the erection. I’m usually at my hardest during foreplay. Then everything goes downhill
Physical touch is the main way to keep the flow going, particularly any form of foreplay. The more touch the better!
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I think that if my partner put the condom on for me that would help a lot.
I hate the cliche and it’s much easier said than done when you constantly are in your head, but being in the moment and just not thinking so much about outcomes helps. As soon as I stop thinking and I just know how bad I want to be with her I won’t have any issues, but getting to that point can be so difficult. My fear of her being frustrated can completely kill the mood for me and my fears come true immediately. It helps when she is understanding and helps me feel comfortable and get hard, but she has an expectation that I shouldn’t need those things and that I should just be hard - at least that is what I feel she is thinking. But getting my focus off of that and just being with her helps to keep the flow going, oral, 69, constant stimulation all help
During a random situation of experiencing complete bonor loss during sex, my girlfriend jokingly slapped my penis, in a joking way. It was in a cute arousing way that it kind of broke the focus of my inner critic when it initially happened and instead of anxiety i was now just watching her jokingly slap my dick and was feeling blood flow return with it being hit more. Im no bdsm fan at all never have been but this deal has now worked to bring my bonor back atleast in 2 situations. Doesnt always work but just my two cents.
Also sometimes completely just giving up (Because its just not happening), changing the vibe and/or room Ill start to feel the arousing thoughts take over again and erection returns. Unfortunately its hit an miss if my girlfriend is still in the mood by this point or not.
I think enlisting her in making it a group sexy effort is a really good idea. I really like to have my balls fondled. Finding other sensations and sexy play while the condoms going on should make it short work
Touch, giving pleasure
I usually try to masterbate while to try to get it aroused again
Laughing and appreciating the beauty of my partner. Trying to focus on pleasure and the moment