I feel good about it. I’ve been working on this stuff for a while and have mostly transitioned to less explicit images and audio with occassional use of ethical porn. I’m hoping I can keep a healthy relationship with sex and this and manage boundaries with a view to mostly moving away from it. I’ve learnt a lot and hope to keep growing in this area.
Some days I turn to porn and masturbation three or four times and it’s just out of boredom or procrastination when I’ve got something else I don’t want to do. I’m going to stop and ask myself what else I could do that would make me happier.
I don’t feel that it benefits me and probably is slightly detrimental. I plan to slowly phase out my porn watching
I developed good habits recently and have had some of the best sex of my life but when I lapse on my daily practices and feel lonely, I fall into a porn wormhole. Not even because I want to but because it was a bad habit I used to have. I will continue to implement strategies to get rid of porn watching for good. For me personally, it’s what best for myself, my sexual wellness, and my relationship
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Understanding triggers is really key. Like stress, me time, build up for the real thing or social media content. Knowing those might help find substitute solutions to the underlying needs …
The big trigger for me is social media. So I wanna cut out social media. I also wanna cut out actual video porn. I think I’ll keep jacking off to pictures of my partner when she sends me nudes, but I want to do that less frequently as well. Just kinda save it all up for the real deal.
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I will often watch porn when it’s harder for me to masturbate because of low overall motivation.
But I will now try to identify those moments and convert it in sports, video game, TV, eating a snack or other activities that also give me satisfaction!
I’m trying to alow myself down and take a moment to check-in with myself before watching porn or before I pull up sexual imagery. I’m learning to be more mindful of what I’m feeling or thinking just before I start watching. That’s helped me to realise it’s a habit to deal with my emotions, not necessarily because I want to watch porn at the time.
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I’ve found that website blocker browser extensions work well for avoiding porn and act as reminders of trying to cut down on it. I’m currently challenging myself to not look at hardcore at all and just focus on softcore or just general saucy pics if I feel like I need visual stimulation when I masturbate. Thankfully, after a couple of weeks, I don’t really feel the urge to go seeking out hardcore anymore so I feel like this approach is working well for me.
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Going for a light to identify what my triggers, I do believe it’s mainly stress, so I’ll like to switch porn up with exercise to let off steam.
The only thing that helped me was removing porn entirely.
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I will get better
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I want to improve my ability to enjoy arousal without the visual stimulus
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I’d like to watch porn without guilt. However, watch porn occasionally and identifying triggers to help me reduce my consumption—be it from boredom, opportunistic or fantasy.
Telling myself that I’m ok to use porn when traveling and sex with my wife is not an option that day, and only when I plan to climax. This makes the urge to idly scroll easier to ignore, knowing that it’s not cold turkey, just when it’s more appropriate.
I think that my problem doesn’t come so much from the porn itself, but the “death grip” masterbation style and race to finish. I’m going to try to watch porn less regularly, but also slow down the experience and take the time to enjoy it more.
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Definitely need to check in before I would start masterbate again it’s gotta be healthy
I’ve never considered my relationship with porn an issue. Admittedly it’s been highlighted that I’m obsessed with sex by my partner. Hence why having PA issues has been so detrimental to my mental headspace.
I’ve put my PA issues down to a guilt/shame around watching porn.
I had masturbated one morning, shortly before my partner tried to have sex with me, and I must’ve been in my refractory period. It had never happened before and my whole world relating to sex spiralled.
I’ve decided to log my porn habits and have found that removing social media be the biggest assistance so far. I’ll see how it goes but feel more confident in myself from my decision and somewhat empowered by it. If I can rid myself of the guilt and shame I carry when I use it, then maybe that’s the key for me.
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For me, the instant gratification of being able to just get your phone out and access porn has been one of the main issues. The decision to just knock out something quick as opposed to actually taking time, easing into it and allowing yourself the space to enjoy it properly has made sex a lot harder as a result.
I agree also with social media playing a big part, some of the other comments have referenced this. That same instant gratification fix is not good for our brains and something as natural and beautiful as sex becomes less attractive due to the ‘everything now’ mindset & lack of patience.
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The idea of logging it feels challenging to me. I think I need to explore why that is, too.