Has anyone ever had psychological ED when you would go soft the moment you’d try to enter her?

🍆 Erection issues
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Hey, so I’m determined to beat this, but with my ex, we’d have amazing sex (doing literally everything but P in V), I’d go down on her and she’d cum, we’d dry hump, kiss for ages, but whenever I’d try to enter her it would go soft. It was the most amazing different sex I’d ever had so far (and she said the same) but… What I would have given to enter her. (I had no problem with penetrative sex in previous marriage with my ex wife)

I was getting closer to it, at first I couldn’t get hard at all with her, (and it wasn’t an attraction problem, I was SO attracted to her, the hottest woman I’ve ever been with - I still masturbate to her memory now) but the more we tried over the weeks, the harder it would get until I was hard always with her, but still when I’d try to enter - soft. I got to the point where she wanted me to masturbate onto her - and I could do that, and it was getting easier and easier every time we had sex. But then we broke up over something unexpected, and we never got the chance to overcome the issue completely, I was getting so close to penetration because we always gave penetration a try every time just in case.

I’m dating someone again, and it’s getting closer to sex now. I really want to overcome this as much as I can before we have sex. Has anyone ever had this? Where would I even start to overcome it? It’s so bizarre, I don’t know what causes it or how to beat it. Thanks.

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Yeah this happens to me too like foreplay and non penetrative sex is great but when I’m putting on the condom about to go in I get soft. that’s a crucial moment like your being put to the test. Are they gonna like you inside them? Are you gonna be able to stay hard and finish while inside. We gotta try to take the pressure off this moment somehow

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Same issue!!
I often use a stretchy silicone ring to physically keep blood in my dick. It seems to work. I felt silly the first few times, but it allows me to have pretty good sex and she does not complain at alll.
She’s super understanding and kind regarding my sexual issues. Been together a year. At first NWIH I was getting in without going soft. Now I have a 70% most of the time.

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Along with what I said above- talk to her beforehand. Tell her erections can be spotty for you. Make sure she knows it’s not an attraction or carousel issue!!! Make sure you load up on the foreplay, fingers & oral like you described you used to do. When I do that it relieves the stress/ fear/anxiety of not being able to keep it up to satisfy her. If she’s already cum 3-4 times, lack of D may not be a big deal…