So recently for various reason my sex life with my wife has taken on a new chapter. We’ve probably had sex more times in the last 6 months than the previous 10 years. However this frequency, sometime 2x a day has meant that I’ve experienced for the first time the odd occasion when I just go soft near finishing and then can’t finish.
I’m 47 now and this only happened for the first time this year. I’m wondering if normal for it to just not happen sometimes. I’m blaming my age or looking at sinister reason, but is it simply the higher frequency means there’s more chance of hitting a bum note?
Strangely when it’s happened, I’ve started with a strong erection, but as I’m approaching “the end” I’ve gone soft.
Stopping and my wife touching me or me going down on her usually make me hard again, but today it just wasn’t happening.
My wife is amazing and simply says, don’t worry, it happens and seems perfectly fine, but as you can imagine I feel a bit ashamed and pathetic when it happens.
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I am 46 yrs old and I had my first issue a few months ago as well . Once it happened once I definitely got in my head and I started to spiral . I would say twice a day is a lot to except out of yourself to begin so give yourself some grace on that . I have had many time over the years were I was difficult to finish if we went twice . I went to my urologist and everything was fine even had my testosterone levers check and everything was good . With that being said he prescribed me viagra and said that should help me to break the cycle if it was performance anxiety . The pills did help me ti break the cycle but lead me to a psychological dependence. Like if I didn’t have a pill it wasn’t going to work . I am happy to say as if this last week I am off the pills and back to my old self . What helped me most was open conversations with my wife and reminding myself of all success I have had in the past and a few failures does not define me . Also trying not to focus so much on my erection but just enjoy my wife touch and staying present in that . Hope this helps .
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Thanks, glad you’re back to your old self. Reassuring reading these things are often phycological induced phases, and something that happens to a lot of us. You’re right about enjoying the touch, relaxing and simply touching and looking at my wife, taking my mind off the erection often brings it back to life.
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I’d say that if you’ve had more sex in the last 6 months than you’ve had in the previous 10 years: 1) great job, you can clearly handle the volume. 2) i everything is working well most of the time dont let it bother you mentally. For all you know, this could have been happening 10 years ago, you just werent seeing enough avtion in the sack to know. You’re every bit the man you were 10 years ago, only better.
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