Finishing too quick + getting soft

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Recently my girlfriend has begun doing oral on me, which has felt great but it’s annoying because I’m always stuck between two problems. 1. I cum too quick, like she can put it in her mouth 3 maybe 4 times before I have to tell her to stop so I don’t finish in like 10 seconds, and 2. If we do stop then I get soft really quickly. My erection goes away almost immediately and I never feel like I’m 100% hard anyways.

So I can’t get too aroused, but at the same time if I’m not aroused then I get soft and can’t perform. So it’s not enjoyable for me or her I imagine.

I’m 21 years old, don’t drink, I workout and I’m in great shape (180lbs 12-13%bf), I’m active, I just don’t know why I’m experiencing BOTH of these issues.

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These are really common to experience at the same time.

I would suggest spending time training yourself both to identify how it feels to and to remain at different levels of arousal.

For example, spend time hovering at a 4 out of 10 while masturbating. Do the same at a 6. Do the same at a 7. Go back and forth between different levels of arousal.

This will help you feel more comfortable staying erect at lower levels on the arousal scale and also help you not cum quicker than you want at higher levels of arousal.

Do this while masturbating a few times a week. It’s a game changer to be able to identify and hover around an any given point on the arousal scale.

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I have the exact same issue. Same as you also 21