I just recently got my T levels checked after getting advice from my dad. He has low t and was like “ it can be genetic.” It was. My T is low. I’m only 33.
I was starting to get better, less anxious about my erections. My GF and I were having lots of great sex, but since learning this my confidence is just shot. My already pretty low view of myself is pretty much nonexistent now. I’m terrified that my dick doesn’t work even though my GF is like “it clearly does! And works very well!”
It’s Valentine’s Day and I just want to giver her the dicking down she deserves and I feel completely inadequate. Any words of advice or encouragement would be really welcome.
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Sorry to read this. Seems like you’re putting way too much pressure on yourself. Don’t think terms like ‘dicking down’ are helpful, with respect. Focus on intimacy and pleasure first, not performance.
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Great “performances” are relative brother.
If you’re feeling low and down in your mindset. Showing up, being present and focusing on her needs is a “great performance”
If you’re feeling AMAZING. Then an “great performance” probably looks different than that.
Bottom line. Be kinder to yourself my man, and give yourself some grace. She’s clearly satisfied 
, enjoy valentines with your partner and let go of the expectations.
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To connect I also was diagnosed with low T at 32. I have been on treatment for about a year and was nervous to communicate my problem with my wife.
At the end of the day we are not broken, and although we are on the younger side, it is not unusual for t levels to get lower as we get older. It’s amazing you at least got in there and had the confidence to get it checked out.
It sounds like your GF is on your side, and my wife says similar things to me. I too am nervous about Valentine’s Day, it’s completely normal to want to please you GF and to not let her down.
I have found affirmations to be helpful, as well as slowing down a little during sex to enjoy the feeling, and not rush to try and prove anything.
You are NOT broken and not alone in this. Thank you for posting this, it helped me to connect as well.
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You’ve clearly made a lot of progress and clearly your girlfriend is impressed. She’s lucky to have a guy like you who is willing to commit to so much work just to make her happy.
Don’t let a number define who you are!!! You got this! 
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