Day 2 of struggling after a good period

I’ve been making great headway with my therapist, following along on here. For the past month or so my GF and I have been having sex, pretty much, at least once every day. I’ve been a little in my head but nothing unmanageable. I’ve been communicating when I’m feeling anxious or insecure and she’s been very accepting and that usually eases my mind.

We were just recently out of town for her birthday on a romantic getaway. At the beginning, I was anxious but able to push through it. We ended up having sex around 3 times each day.

On the last day, as we were about to pack to leave, we had sex and were snuggling. I got hard again and we went for round 2. She came a couple times, but about 10 or so min in I got really tired. I realized I wasn’t going to be able to finish, and my erection went down.

This was yesterday. Since then I have been so in my head and completely riddled with performance anxiety. I feel like a failure and loser. She’s confused and feeling insecure no matter how many times I tell her what is going on with me.

I’m just terrified that I’ve lost all my progress, that this will keep happening now suddenly after such an incredible period, and that she will leave me for someone else.

Start shifting your mindset man. Don’t focus on the negativity, but rather the positives. Think about how far you’ve come and how you’re able to have sex once, sometimes multiple times a day. Don’t dwell on the negative experiences, you’re human and stuff like that will happen all the time and you need to learn to be ok with it. This is just a bump in the road and that doesn’t define you at all. Happy thoughts = a happy life, negative thoughts = a non happy life.