Feeling discouraged after a win?

🍆 Erection issues
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So this past week has been good. My lady and I have been having sex every night and in the morning yesterday. No pills. I’ve gotten a little in my head but it hasn’t been enough to override my arousal.

Last night we were having sex, about 10 minutes in I started to get in my head and lost my erection. I went down on her instead.

Afterwards I opened ip to her for the first time how anxious I’d really been and that I’d used pills a couple times. That I think the anxiety is just because I like her a lot and am putting a lot of pressure on myself. It was a great conversation and actually led to us telling each other “I love you” for the first time.

That made me feel so close, and I actually got hard again and we had sex again.

But this morning I woke up so fucking anxious it’s insane. Massive pit in my stomach. Can’t stop thinking about it and just be present. I feel like I took a huge step back… even though we took a step forward in our relationship and successfully had sex last night. What is up with me?

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Nothing is up with you, for real. I used to get so nervous about feeling anxious every time I started feeling anxious. Am I always going to feel anxious? Is this a sign I’m not healing? Is there something wrong with me?

My therapist said something to me that changed all that. “You’re just feeling.” There is nothing good or bad about it. So if you’re feeling anxious, don’t worry about feeling anxious. Get curious about it. How long does it last? Do you feel any physical sensations on anxiety?

The point is your sex love and relationship is really good right now. Don’t let perfection ruin a good thing. If you’re feeling anxious, that’s a regular part of life. It happens, and it will pass as long as you don’t ruminate and worry about it. Truly, you’re fine. Let yourself feel and use your Mojo exercises to calm your nerves. Nothing is wrong with you and you’re not on the verge of anything bad.

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