I’ve recently noticed doing Mojo’s exercises that using fantasy (whether of past sexual experiences or imagined ones with people I know) is a really powerful tool to aid in my erections. I can usually get hard without a minute or two using this technique, sometimes even with little physical stimulation.
But this got me thinking. I’ve been in sexual situations in the past where I’ve used fantasy to help get harder in the moment but I’ve felt guilty about it because it makes me feel like I’m not living in the moment and not focusing on my partner. It also makes me feel shameful because a lot of the time the fantasies are of past partners or of imagined ones with people I know in real life.
All I want to do with these fantasies is to get harder so I can have more incredible sex with my partner right in front of me. I’m doing it for them but it still feels so wrong, almost like I’m mentally cheating on them. Any thoughts on this? Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this?