So Iām 20 years old and still a Virgin. From my understanding people find me really attractive but Iām really shy and introverted. Iām really ashamed of still being a virgin and it feels like everyone is judging me
But yesterday I was over at my crush house and everything went good until we tried to have sex and I couldnāt get hard. Iāve never been so ashamed in my life. She havenāt answered my snaps since then and It feels like Iām loosing it, It really feels like blew my one and only chance
I havenāt slept for 2 days and havenāt had any apatite Iāve truly never felt this shitty before really reaching new heights
I know it might seem like a stretch for some but I feel like a worthless human being and donāt know what to do 
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I would like to add that Iāve watched porn almost every day for years and I have no problem getting and erections when Iām watching porn
But I donāt get morning woods anymore and itās almost impossible to get hard by just touching myself without watching anything at all
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Hey @early-yellow-anteater! It sounds like youāre having a really tough time but let me just start by saying that thereās absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Not having had sex yet just means youāre going to be more mature when you eventually do, which is a really good thing. And struggling to get it up in an intense moment like getting intimate with your crush for the first time is completely normal.
The good news is that your issue doesnāt seem to be physical, which means that youāve already got everything you need to overcome it in your head. Mojo can hopefully help you with that process and allow you to enjoy sex in no time.
When you get another opportunity to get intimate, maybe share that youāre a bit nervous and take things slowly. Thereās a lot of ways to enjoy each otherās bodies without jumping straight to penetrative sex. I know thatās not necessarily what porn or the movies teach you, but give it a try. Be curious about each other and have fun playing around.
Take it easy 
Thank you really means a lot, i dont know if its ok to ask questions but is it good to stop masturbating fully ?. I just did it for the first time in 3 weeks today without porn and although it was difficult it felt good and gave me a bit of a confidence boost
I canāt give you any specific advice as Iām not a therapist, but masturbation in itself doesnāt generally contribute to erection issues. Iād recommend working your way through the performance anxiety course if you havenāt done so already and see whether any of that is relatable for you. You might also want to listen to the āRebalance your porn useā podcast series in the Resources section of the app.
Hope that helps and keep it up!
Hey buddy, I know it must feel awful but donāt be so hard on yourself. Youāre not alone 
It was the first time your brain was in a new situation. It is very common to feel anxious, excited and have your mind racing too much to feel aroused.
I have often had difficulty getting erections with new women the first few times. Sometimes I still also have difficulty with my current girlfriend if i have something on my mind distracting me. Although I have improved greatly with help from Mojo.
Firstly, be kind to yourself. Youāre your own best friend so focus on building your inner coach and quieting your inner critic. You managed to get into an intimate situation with your crush - thats awesome. Feel proud about that and build on from there.
Secondly, if you watch porn daily you may have inadvertently trained your brain to mostly be aroused from watching other people through a screen. It can take some practice to rewire but it is 100% possible for anyone.
Things you can try to ease off porn a bit is downgrading to pictures or switching between less women and videos. Then maybe only watching porn for parts of a session, reducing the overall time or doing so less frequently. Explore just casually enjoying the touch of your own body in the shower without porn - donāt worry about having to be hard instantly, the errections will come later.
Personally I found easing off porn an important part of my healing journey. No need to cut it out entirely - porn can be fun and exciting. But our brain is a funny creature and will sometimes make connections and form habits without us consciously realising it.
Also a plus tip is communicating up front can really help ease off the pressure having to perform. Simply saying youād love a cuddle but sometimes it takes you some time to feel comfortable with a new person can make a difference. You will find that can ease the tension for everyone - women get nervous too.
Keep up with mojo and good luck 