I have been in a monogamous relationship for nearly 20 years. One thing I’ve always wanted is oral sex. I go down on my wife frequently. I actually enjoy it. However, she’s not really excited about the idea of a BJ. I really want to have one and am open to almost anything to try one with her. She’s not so into it. She may never be into it - she has tried once but was pretty grossed out. I’d love to make it something we could try. Any ideas?
This is a difficult one. You can’t force her, but she’s not meeting your needs. You should ask if she would mind if you got it elsewhere, as in ethical non monogamy. There are those out there that only soft swap (oral only). If she wants to be involved in that, you need to tell the other male that she doesn’t do oral in return. You may be able to find a couple willing to do that as that males partner can do oral or even have sex with him. Communication is the most critical part of this. Both with your partner and with the others involved.
Buy some flavoured condoms and get her to try it with that condom on your penis.
I’d try literally everything before I bring up going elsewhere for head….
Can you watch porn together? Maybe watching others give and receiving head may help?