Nevermind the actual unrealistic things that porn perpetuates like size, performance, stamina, volume, and actual extreme stuff like scat and fisting…
There seems to be a pretty big population of people (common in religious communities and MLMs for some reason) where anything outside of some of the most vanilla sex is seen as “only happens in porn”. Things like cumming in mouth, swallowing, anal, eating pussy, road head, roleplay beyond the basic schoolgirl and OL stuff seem to be judged so harshly and produce really boring sex.
Of course, not everyone is comfortable with everything, communication with your partner is key, but I wish some people would stop treating opinion as standard for what’s considered “unrealistic porn propaganda”.
I’d say cumming in mouth is very particular, can’t expect every partner to want to do that, let alone swallow. And the anus is vulnerable, can’t expect everyone to want that either.
Otherwise, I personally haven’t met a woman who doesn’t want the man to go down on her. I think a woman who thinks cunnilingus is gross, is quite prude, as men are doing it for her pleasure. Most women won’t be able to achieve orgasm through penetration alone, and you kind of have to do give her some oral in order to get her ready for penetration, anyway.
Anyway, I’d hope to date women who are at least into reciprocating on the oral. I remember I was so self-conscious with my first girlfriend, to subject her to putting my penis in her mouth. But I eventually realized if we’re taking care of our hygiene, we don’t have to feel awkward about wanting to get head. You just have to be with someone who likes to give head. If you’re giving her head, she’ll be more likely to wish to return the favour.
Ohh yeah I understand not everyone would be open to having cum in their mouth. I recognize it as a personal choice and I respect that. But I’m talking about people who automatically think that only pornstars do it, just because they are repulsed by the idea. And CIM is just an example, this extends to some other sex acts too.