Excelling when solo but struggling with partnered sex

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Iā€™ve had issues with PE, after months of breath work exercises I feel in complete control when masturbating and have even had several non-ejaculation orgasms. However when Iā€™m having sex with a partner I canā€™t control my arousal as well, the sensations are too much. Anyone else struggling with this?

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Same buddy. That kitty has a different hold on me.

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Mmm, my problem is the opposite, not enough excitement to keep the erection, so I have no clue.

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I had a very similar problem but what worked for me was to stimulate other senses like touch. Getting her to grab my arm etc would take my mind off it. Iā€™ve now gone from sub minute lasting too upwards of 20mins consistently.

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What breathwork did you do?

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Thanks, Iā€™ll give that a try

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Itā€™s mainly a combination of deep belly breath and then using visualisation to move it up the body. I actually watched a bunch of YouTube videos from the ā€˜Sexual Kung Fuā€™ guy which really worked for non-ejaculation orgasms

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Iā€™ve just recently started having orgasms without ejaculating when I masturbate and it makes me feel less manly. The pleasure is also significantly less. Does this happen with you?

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I definitely agree it feels different but canā€™t say it feels less pleasurable. I quite enjoy the sensation and it actually makes me feel more in control not having ejaculation as the end goal. I find myself more energised and turned on so have been trying to channel that sexual energy into other creative pursuits.

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Thanks - that does put not ejaculating in a different perspective. I appreciate your insight.

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Guys thought Iā€™d give an update, Iā€™ve had a breakthrough! I knew it was psychological given I could last for however long I wanted when solo masturbating but could only last a couple of minutes when f**king my wife. I tried a self-hypnosis programme and itā€™s worked! Iā€™ve been consistently controlling when I want to cum when weā€™re having sex. Itā€™s been a game changer. If anyoneā€™s interested itā€™s the programme by Barrie St John, takes some getting used to his northern 90s voice & style but I listened to it for a couple of weeks before I went to sleep and it seems to have broken the mental block. :+1:

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From your experience do you think it might for a delayed ejaculator??
I canā€™t come anywhere but my own hand.
Normal solo, but after 15-20 min of sex, then sheā€™ll start with her hand or mouthā€¦ eventually I end up finishing myself with her ā€˜helpā€™.. eventually that could take 20 min extraā€¦
Thanks in advance!

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I canā€™t see why it wouldnā€™t be worth a shot, there were multiple recordings on the website each for a different issue. Iā€™m sure thereā€™s probably one for delayed ejaculation. Think I paid about Ā£12 for the recoding I used so definitely worth trying.