I was dating a girl for a while and noticed over time that I would get situational ED. Anyone else experience this? I think mostly psychological issue. Spectatoring maybe? Overthinking? In any case the partner I WAS with didn’t understand despite my saying “this happens to guys” and she said “this was never a problem in my previous relationships”. Wow. Thanks for the support lol. She was super critical and entitled and I even told her once that I was a bit fearful to be myself at times because of her ways. That was turned against me as well of course. With that being said I think my body was telling me the relationship wasn’t working even before my brain realized it! I’m fairly certain that she had some narcissistic traits. If I didn’t meet her demands or pulled away from doing something she wanted to do even slightly she would blow up and say “I feel so distant from you right now.” It was becoming toxic, emotionally abusive, and confusing. Being put on a pedestal and then being put down was pretty shitty. She even said “you don’t do anything romantic so I have too”. I’m sorry, are the date nights, gifts I buy you, time together, and words of affection mean nothing? Hello narcissism.
I’m healing now and am better off without her. Erections have come back and this app has been absolutely helping.
I guess I don’t really have a question per se other than to tell a cautionary tale. Listen to your gut and watch out for red flags. Anyone else have a similar story?
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Definitely had similar. My issues started after I broke up with my ex but I remember the one night I had issues with her was after I saw her messaging another guy over her shoulder but didn’t bring it up in the moment. Sometimes your body is telling you that the connection is gone and you just aren’t up for it I guess. I’m sure u can imagine why we broke up haha
Dude. My ex was texting another guy quite often. He is a “friend” she would say. Rolling over in bed in the morning and seeing a text from him didn’t feel like he was just a friend. So toxic. Even when I would tell her I would be uncomfortable with it she would tell me to stop being insecure and she needed that. When it became too much for me that’s when my issues started. We are better off guys. Don’t put up with that shit
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This ex of yours describes my last relationship so well! I relate a lot with being put on a pedestal and then being brought down, and feeling like you can’t be yourself because you can expect a negative reaction. Ironically she would notice my (for lack of a better term) inauthenticity and ask why I wouldn’t open up, and then say how “me of all people you should let your guard down with”. HELL NAH, not with the way you make bullets with them…anyways, stay away from those type of individuals , and look forward to when you find someone who has real empathy for your struggles
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Making bullets with my emotions I mean lol
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Yes bro. Sounds quite similar indeed. I referred to them as daggers. We would be having a great night and then boom. Dagger. I get a little excited and quirky about something. Boom. Another dagger. No thanks. So confusing and not cool.
Hi, I had a partner like this. In this case the partner was a man. He was overly critical of my appearance. I look good and I look after myself well however, he put me on a pedestal, but quickly fell off of it when I became unsure of this narcissistic behaviour. I felt down for a long time as he rejected me and also slept with other partners. What I did was find a loving partner who likes me as I am in and out.
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Glad you found someone much better for you. Yep my ex was critical of my appearance a lot as well. Time for me to find a nicer girl 
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