Do you ever get anxious during sex? How does it affect you? (Part 1)

I get very anxious once it looks like sex is possible, so I end up avoiding these situations. I avoid meaningful relationships as a result.

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Yes I think after a few experiences of prematurely ejaculating I became self conscious of my erection instead of just enjoying it which led to me not being able to get it up. Now I get anxious as we are about to have sex and sometimes even just thinking about it. Being anxious is contagious and means my partner is not able to enjoy it either.

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Yes, I feel anxious during sex. Worried about not pleasing my partner and in turn am not in the moment, my heads elsewhere. This anxiety causes me to not become erect which then worsens my anxiety/self-confidence.

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Yes, it kills my mood

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I get erections in the morning normally. But I find difficult to maintain the erection during sex I am too much in my head. Once we start I can maintain a erection for a bit but it goes its horrible. I feel embarrassed after thankfully she understandable but I think I sabotage the relationship but I don’t feel good enough.

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Yes, have performance anxiety frequently. Causes me not to get hard or to lose my erection. Sometimes end up with premature ejaculation.

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Yeah, I get anxious before sex all the time. Usually worried about not getting it up, and how that’s going to affect my relationship

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I just got excited in my body, mind and soul and was appreciating the beauty of the woman I was with. I also wanted to make sure to really pleasure her as she was giving herself to me. So it was difficult to understand why is went soft as her and I were heating each other up!

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I get anxious before sex as I have found that I have a lack of trust in my own body. This lack of trust has meant that I am constantly worried about whether my penis will get erect, rather than being focused on my partner and the experience we are about to share.

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Yeah just about if my partner is enjoying it or if I’m doing a good job during sex. The effect it seems to have is I only get 3/4 erect.

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My first time I got completely anxious and struggled to keep it up. Over a few days trying it still wouldn’t work. Eventually it became so overwhelming and I had an anxiety attack and started questioning everything. It was horrible and I thought I was to blame or something was wrong with me

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Thoughts of not being able to perform take me out of the present moment and I miss the pleasure right in front of me.

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Yes

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Yes i get very nervous, especially once we begin to advance when making out. Or when putting on the condom my anxiety flies through the roof.

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Very anxious, to the point that i am unconditionaly trembling.

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I have ED issues realted to sex. I can masturbate just fine and get morning erections too. I think my lack of sexual experience combined with the fact I have only been in sexual situations similar to a hookup have not helped. Porn and strip clubs have also played havoc on my expectations of a woman, what I can get attracted to and expectations of myself. And because I have never been able to reach a satisfactory sexual climax with a partner, there is an ever present doubt in my mind that starts as early as me getting to know a new woman. Sometimes I am nervous to let the conversation proceed which leads to sex because I’m doubting what would happen? I’m in this community to learn to get out of my head because it is definitely a psychological issue. There are some things like a NoFap challenge and abstaining from Porn and Strip Clubs which I have found helpful. But ultimately it is trying to find a relationship where I can talk about it with my partner, and be ok with days with issues. Because I do believe ultimately it is beatable. The same mind that created this issue, can solve it. Cheers to anyone who read and good luck to you as well. Be in the moment, enjoy life and your time. And rest will follow.

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I get anxious about not doing it right and not making them cum. Also anxious about my appearance. I get body dysphoria around not being able to penetrate at all because I can’t get an erection until I have surgery to put an erectile device and testicular implants in.

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My chronic illnesses make me anxious before and during sex

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Yes. Not that I have had a lot of sex recently, but yeah - with people I haven’t fucked with before, and specifically people I find attractive, I get quite anxious beforehand whether I’ll get it up.

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yeah I’m worried that I’ll lose my erection which takes my mind off enjoying it

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