Course, doesnt help, thats for sure
Yes as soon as I get into bed with a girl I’m constantly worrying about getting soft… which leads to me getting soft.
Loose erection. Panic about not being hard and become flaccid.
I do get anxious a lot.
No
Yes. Anxiety to me comes from feeling inadequate with a more experienced partner, or worrying that something won’t be “perfect”. Both are, however, unfair or unrealistic thoughts but it’s still hard to get out of my mind, specially when I’m in a “snowball effect”, where a previous attempt was already difficult.
Often I am too much in my head and it gets the best of me. I lose my erection particularly when I am in the bottom position because of this reason.
Makes me feel less of a man to be honest. My way of thinking is that a man should be hard at a moments notice. Pornography has played a big role in this way of thinking. I just remember feeling myself gradually losing my erection during sex and it feels horrible because I know exactly what is going to happen next with the woman I’m with. She feels like she has done something wrong or I am not attracted to her which will lead to a bicker
Due to the Pandemic, my sex/dating life completely stopped for about 2 years like most people who weren’t in a relationship. Now as I start to venture out into sexual experiences again, I’ve found this new issue that twice I’ve lost my erection in a setting where I was initially turned on and started to engage in a more intimate and sexual encounter. Looking back I find myself in each of these moments and also in my day-to-day life to be overanalyzing and getting anxious about sexual activity. I’m not thin enough. I haven’t had sex in so long so I’m going to be bad now that I’m trying again. My penis isn’t big enough. Specifically with this 2nd instance, I feel so anxious afterwards - I’ve been in a full on spectatoring mode the past day, fixating on my penis and if I will get an erection throughout the day or if I will have to watch porn and then is this a sign that I’m dealing with porn dependence due to the pandemic’s impact on my sex life? Hoping to gain some insight and tools to overcome this with mojo.
I do get anxious during sex and it really takes away from the experience. I’m all in my head and I can really only focus on what she is going to think or how I’m disappointing her. The experience is so much better when I’m comfortable and I don’t have expectations.
My heart starts racing, my penis seems its working agains me. My mind just goes down a negative spiral
Alone i am fine, plus when texting and speaking to my partner. However at times when we are intimate i get into my head and lose my erection.
Yes, Often through foreplay I can get completely hard 9 times out of 10 but when it comes to putting on a condom or even thinking about my penis and how I will perform I suddenly rush into overthinking. This in itself flicks a switch in my brain and I start going flaccid and feel very frustrated and confused. The pressure of the situation at the time sometimes feels overwhelming
I could be completely in the moment and rock hard, but right before we would move onto more than making out, I would get those anxious thoughts like “what if it can’t stay hard by the time I am ready to put it in?” and it is debilitating. So much so that my partner and I simply just stop and begin to cuddle. I have never dealt with anxiety so this is absolutely a first and is difficult to navigate.
I found it difficult to maintain an erection for enough time during sex with my last partner. We had developed over time other areas of our sex script that were comfortable for both of us and gave us a chance to relax and enjoy the time together in our intimacy. But when it came to trying intercourse which both of us really wanted it was very much led by how I was feeling, and tring to make the stimulation optimal for it. Over time the repeated failures I was having made it harder to share my anxiety about wanting to have successful intercourse but feeling unable to do so. Even though we both enjoyed aspects of our sex I always felt I was letting her down, even when she said that she wasn’t worried by this.
Yes, i’m constantly monitoring my penis if it’s hard or not
Yes i get anxious that i wont be able to get it up , which then turns into the reality and I overthink it . Then sex stops. I can get hard but i have performance anxiety
Definitely. It causes me to loose erection fairly often.
Absolutely, before and during. It kills my erection and libido (before).
Yes, I worry that I won’t be able to get or maintain an erection since it happened a few times. Then I get nervous and lose my confidence