So I know I’m in my head and I had a couple of poor experiences with my fiancé before this happened where I lost my erection when trying to have sex. In moments after that I started to get in my head about losing It after trying to have sex. one time after this we both took edibles and I think I was a little too high and tried hooking up and I’m not sure what happened but I flipped out and started feeling like I couldn’t breathe and my heart was pounding like crazy and we had to stop. Since then I think I’ve developed a mental block around fingering and I don’t really know what to do. I think somehow my fight or flight response kicks in because of that experience I had as my brain trying to protect me from having another bad experience leading to my erection issues. The only thing is is I don’t know how to get out of it
Also P.S. I tried talking to her about it and I think I might’ve made the problem worse I thought open communication might be better but I’m not sure if it helped
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You were sexually attracted to vaginas before, right? When you are innately attracted to vaginas (which you probably are when you are straight) I am sure that this fear will go away sooner than later. Try to deal with that trauma and gently start reexposing yourself and you will be fine.