Desensitization?

Anyone else feel like they can’t feel much of anything anymore? Has anyone had this and slowly gotten their sensitization back? I think my years of mental overstimulation with compulsive porn, mindless masturbation, and not focusing on my needs when having sex have put me in this situation. I think I feel more when I touch my shoulder than when I touch my penis. It’s an awful feeling. Is this a thing or does anyone have a success story because I’m feeling pretty hopeless right now.

Hi! I had something similar over the past few months. I noticed that when I was focusing on having the feeling, telling myself in my head “are you feeling it? I just want to make sure this works,” I wouldn’t have the feeling, and I’d start to go soft because I was initiating fight or flight. That feedback loop in my brain just made it worse and worse and I had to cut it off. It takes some time, but The Sensate Touch and Directed masturbation exercises were really helpful for me in gaining this back, as it was more focus on being present in my body and enjoying the moment

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Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It feels good to know we’re not alone in this stuff.

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