Delayed responses are driving me mad

I recently got into my first relationship, and so far I’m really happy when I go out with her. She clearly likes me and enjoys going out with me too.

Unfortunately, there is something that is driving me crazy and really frustrates me: the fact that she takes forever to respond. I’m not over exaggerating when I say that she takes over a day to respond to the most simple of messages.

What’s even worse is that my time with her so far is limited. We’re both in Uni, and in about two weeks I’m leaving to go back home for Easter. That is why I want to spend as much time as I can with her before I inevitably have to go.

But she’s not responding to my texts. She said she’s really busy with uni work and having to sort out stuff at her house and all, but at least a fucking response would be nice. I’m just lost- I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to sound too desperate for her or pressure her in any way, but i don’t want to just ignore her either.

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Here’s my quick take:

She probably genuinely is busy and overwhelmed, especially with uni and personal stuff. But your feelings matter too, and clear communication is key.

Try something like:

“Hey, totally get you’re busy—I don’t wanna pressure you. Just wanted to say I’d love to see you before I leave, let me know when you’re free.”

Then step back a bit. If she’s into it, she’ll reach out. Giving her space might also ease your own stress about the situation.

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