I have been seeing my girlfriend for 1 year and having sex for around 6 months. Throughout that time I failed to ejaculate in her, I never succeeded.
I could see she was taking it personally, and I tried to talk to her. But she wouldn’t discuss it. Every subsequent time I’ve felt so pressured and fearful of losing her it has become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Last night when I asked her again about it, she ended it saying she is not strong enough to handle the feelings of rejection. We are now broken up.
While I feel she may have her own backstory which I am not aware of, this experience has been mortifying and upsetting for me.
Need to reset my confidence in this space. I know it functions but mind is blocking.
Losing one’s best friend and lover over these challenges is so painful. I am just really heartbroken.
So sorry to hear this! I do think you hit a nail on the head about not knowing her backstory and possible problems. I’m not sure how old you are our want to presume. But we are all a little to a lot messed up in some way or another. Every girl I dated growing up after about the 6 month mark would find out that they had problems in some way. From little to large. My wife of 18 years was married to a bad guy before me and, grew up in a repressive Christian family. We have dealt with issues honestly for about 15 years from those experiences. I would say the first five years of our marriage I was blamed for things that her previous husband has done. She is worth it all to me. I’m just saying that we all have problems and trauma, why most of us are on this app but that the partners in our lives also have problems and like our psych ED they come out in weird ways. I hope for the best for you man and that maybe you can work it out with her. Good luck my friend!