I recently met someone who I really liked. We were both pretty nervous and my body didn’t perform. I got super insecure about it infront of her and asked for reassurance that it wouldn’t change anything. She said it wouldn’t but started to pull away. I don’t know if it was related but that made me even more insecure and anxious and I ended up driving her away as a result. How to deal with this issue whilst being kind to yourself?
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Some women are going to be more focused on it than others, if you’re not up to the task for some that’s okay. Just like myself man you’ll find yourself a woman who’s willing to stick around for you and it’ll pull your confidence through the roof knowing it’s not a relationship ending deal.
Sorry to hear about the breakup, and I wish you the best in future man be kind to yourself and be patient 
That sucks man. I’m sorry…
My worst nightmare.
Tony let your head get the best of you…
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Sorry to hear that. It had happened to me as well. The feeling of shame of not being able to perform can really reinforce the ED… if you let it! Don’t let it.
My advice for you would be to have several «sessions» of foreplay before having penetrative sex. Tease eachother a bit, try to delay the act of having sex until you are able to have an erection during foreplay. If you get an erection good. Maybe you lose it, fine. Dont worry, its only foreplay. Talk to eachother during foreplay, make it a safe and comfortable activity. After several sessions, maybe you can get and hold the erection for longer. Next step would be to penetrate but only to tease, penetrate a couple of times and notice how it feels for you. Focus on your sensations, not so much on your partners reaction. Control your breathing, tell your body your safe by breathing slowly. Eventually you will be able to keep your erection. Trust this process. It may feel like an unsolvable problem, but it is very solvable. Good luck and enjoy the ride!