Good news story- I’ve been on cialis for years and had started to have performance concerns creep in several years ago. Would typically find a way to have mediocre sex but be worrying before, during and after. The act of joining mojo just made me stop and think alot of stuff
- I didn’t just stop watching porn 2+ months ago, I realized when I was jerking off previously, it was manic amd maybe to procrastinate and just get it done with bit of visual stimulus
- I also realized I didn’t breathe properly- often held my breath
- and while we’re on the subject, I always had anxiety about waking with hard on, but not really wanting sex straight away but feeling try was a failure
So much compounding crap, but honestly a couple of months of learning stress relieving Breathwork and taking a lot more time to concentrate on enjoying masturbating led.to a transformative week long holiday with my gf. Accepting that I was only horny when I was horny was relaxing vs must be up for it always and I was actually relaxed and very proactive sexually with her all week.
More of the same but it feels like a massive weight off already.
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I have a fairly similar story as yours, everything you said I can relate to. I’ve been on Cialis too for about a year and sometimes it doesn’t work either nowadays. What kind of breathing techniques do you use and with masturbation what do you do differently? Thanks.
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This is really inspiring man. It’s brave of you to face all your fears fand put the solution into practice so quickly.
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I think I just realized (after years, I might add) that I was never relaxed and always panicking, albeit not generally avoiding sexual situations. But taking the time to consciously activate breathing exercises does start to retrain you to reset and then with the masturbation (still with Cialis, but I’m not planning on quitting that) it was about actually paying attention to the sensations and creating a relaxing situation as opposed to the way I’ve probably done it for years… Whacking on some porn and just going for it as quickly as possible. Tbh, consciously creating that calmer environment to masturbate was an effort to start and it’s not like I do that every day but I’m more comfortable doing it less and taking more time. This definitely impacted positively on the real world sex with the girl i was seeing, significantly, presumably because I was less in my head worrying and more in my head enjoying
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I guess I’d also say that the woman in question said she had probably never talked about sex as much with any previous partner. I saw this as a good thing because I think all my issues stemmed from lack of open Communcation, leading to constant questioning of what was “normal”, whatever that means
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