So girlfriend of 4 years and like she’s telling me that although we have had good sex she doesn’t think I’ve actually made her orgasm. Like she tells me what she likes and I swear I do try to do those things but it feels like no matter how much I do them I either lose myself in the moment because I’m trying to make her finish or she’s just not finishing. Like I know that’s not entirely on me and there’s things she could probably do differently but anyone else find that when they’re solely focused on trying to make their partner orgasm they lose themselves in the moment and go soft or they almost lose interest? Maybe something is wrong with me who knows.
Apparently a high percentage of women can’t orgasm by penetration alone. Some need clit stimulation as well…
Does she cum when you go down or finger her?
Broth I feel you…im in similar situation…if I wasn’t in my head trying to remember the magical combination to unlock her orgasm maybe I could actually enjoy what is supposed to be a natural part of life.
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Guys, it’s all with your mind - and by that I mean she can feel your vibe if you’re “just trying to make her cum” or if it feels like a chore or effort for you. Let me give you the secret - you have to relax and create a kinky vibe for her, talk dirty to her (in a style that she likes), or just talk dirty in a way that makes her feel like you could “play with her for hours because you love it”, and just take the pressure off “her having to cum soon”, she needs to relax, and you can help her relax by talking dirty, being kinky, building up the climax. Women are so much in their minds, it’s a state of mind to cum, not just physical sensations… so you need to start super slow and soft, and also with your talk and mind too, and get horney and kinky yourself and tell her what you want to do with her, and LEAD, you have to lead, don’t let her lead. And if you’re doing something and she doesn’t seem into it (she’s not moaning slightly, or saying “yes” or “that feels so good”) then take the lead and change it up - roll her over and try something different. You need to be the leader in bed and let her mind relax so she doesn’t have to problem solve. And let her feel like you are never bored or it’s not a chore and you LOVR PLAYONG WITH HER AND can do it forever. Then she will cum. Once again so much is with your mind and the vibe you create.
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