I am a virgin, and one time before the deed I couldn’t get it up and ever since I am dealing with erectile and arousal issues. Before I had high libido, needing to masturbate everyday with no erectile problems. Now, i can go a week without self gratification, and sometimes if I masturbate to closely, I can’t achieve full erection. Somehow I also tied certain positions with erection problems, and now I can barely get full hard when standing on feet, only with excessive physical stimulation and only if really aroused. Otherwise I am healthy and young without any health concerns. I am looking for tips or reassurance that this is really temporary, because it is starting to mess with my mental health.
Was in the similar situation. Now I can have good erection during sex. I cannot ejaculate while being inside of my partner, but I see a lot of results
Tips here are very helpful
Developing skill to be present during sex(while feeling anxiety also) is what helped the most. It was counterintuitive and took a lot of time. But it helped. Here’s the reassurence))
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when i had my first time i initially couldnt get hard either. it took a few sessions to even get hard to be able to penetrate. the next issue in my case then was that i couldnt climax. after pistoning fir an hour she git exhausted and we had to stop, for a few times. then the nerves disappeared (or changed) and i was able to get hard and cum. now, the next issues to tackle are that sometimes the urge to cum comes way too quickly (which i can usually mitigate with various techniques).
long story short, it’s a journey. it wont get better immediately or without trying, but it will. embrace “failure”, it’s just part of the process. we humans need time to grow, and get out of our heads. we can do it, you, me, and everyone else!
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