See title, I’m a 22yo/male who can’t cum, and then stress about that is what causes me to lose my erection. I believe it is due to the way I masturbate, but I have had trouble resolving this.
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There used to be a section called sensate focus. I can’t find it.
It was essentially you or with a partner touch yourself all over and focus on the sensations. There were several levels from clothed to naked to naked and finish yourself or have a partner finish you.
I have a deathgrip as well.
Things that have helped:
-cut way down on porn/ solo.
-use lube
-loosen your grip.
-try left handed
-use a sleeve or fleshlight to simulate a pussy. No pussy is as firm as your hand.
-try using imagination rather than porn.
Imagine scenes you’ve been in or something super sexy that you’ve seen or been a part of rather than past video images.
I do Kegals, reverse and diaphragm stretches as well as sometimes I go to sleep with a meditation playing.
Good luck man!!
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I have the same issue, man. I’m the same age and I’m getting too into my head about it in the moment and i just cant ever finish. I’ve been thinking it may be this too. Let me know if you find something that works for you.
Had a similar thing and realised medication was a contributor. Good thing to check into.
Also trying to not start fast during sex, as that could de-sensitise things. Having a little breather if it goes that way and really reducing touch for a brief moment is good too.
Once I’ve built an association that ‘this person makes me come and its super hot’ then that feeling it’s halfway in your system it’s a lot easier.
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