So I have an issue with losing my erection on penetration. I can be hard as a rock, I get inside and then after a few pumps im deflated.
Im now at the stage where I can think about sex and as soon as I imagine sliding into my partner, I lose all arousal and erection.
Anyone had this and if so how did you overcome it? Its ruining my life
This is me rn. I haven’t fixed it. I think it’s linked to much deeper issues. If she gives me head first and I get really hard it will work, but if I think about trying to pleasure her it goes soft. Mine is related to relationship issues, and my confidence (which used to be strong) being broken. I’m ashamed of who I am as a person right now, and I don’t want to be seen or perceived in life, so I think it linked over to the bedroom ( in addition to a bad breakup in a thruple situation). So it’s no surprise… I’m just worried I’m stuck with it forever, and I’ll need a literal heros journey to heal. I’m 33 with kids though, so maybe my mental horny level is going down too. I get hard all of the time when penetration isn’t involved. I can still fantasize about it but it definitely bothers me. I hope you find your way.
I have same issue, so frustrating. My case was quite a lot of masturbation and getting used to my own touch. I am going to try Cialis this month to see if it helps, even short term
Brother it’s a tough journey man. Mine is linked to relationship issues. At the current moment I would say my sexual confidence is at it’s all time low and I can see how it really is affecting my partner. I am constantly faced with this fear where I will lose her and the funny is I will eventually lose her if I keep going on like this
That’s why we’re all here bro. 90% of us are same.
Be open and honest with her.
You’re anxious.
Me too.
When I enter and she moans or says how good it feels or whatever/ I know I’m below average and in my head I think- you’re just saying that…..
I don’t think it’s true, but the thought often kills my boner. I’m very visual. I’ve started focusing on watching her. All her sexy bits, the way she touches herself or me during sex. I’m a foot guy and hers are spectacular. I got real good at oral and fingering. If she’s finished 3-4 times before I enter- I’m not a failure even if I lose it after a pump or two.
If I do lose it the angle is to not panic.
I just rub it on her. She loves it and has cum from just that. Listening to her reactions during that often gets me going again!
Keep working the app.
Create a kegal routine.
Have real conversations with her.
Make her understand it’s your issue and not hers.
If there are ways she could help- tactfully suggest them. (I asked mine to speak more explicitly in bed and it helped!!)
Good luck man!!