I was having a hard time getting it up but thanks to knowing my types of cognitive impairment, reminding myself that I’m human and I should have no expectations and box breath I was able to get it up no problem, I was just wondering if someone has any advice for better conilingus and/or fingering. Seems that I get stuck in that part because I can’t make a girl cum that way, I normally am very consistent with the timing between fingering and conilingus but that’s not working, anyone?
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I always find gently fingering them is the best way! Ask them what they like ( they’ll know best). Some girls prefer penetration with fingers, others prefer clitoral stimulation! Personal preference is key
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I find women are all different here. Some are super sensitive and can cum off a bit of over the pants stimulation, some will cum from oral, some need more. General advice use the middle and ring finger to stroke the g spot while using your tongue on the clit! Seems to be a fan favourite.
But best advice here is to find out how the girl likes it, either by asking her or feeling her out and seeing how she reacts to different things.
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Some women are far less sensitive compared to others. Just like men with delayed ejaculation problems, it exists in some form for some women as well. It gets in their head and they can’t cum.
I spent $75 on “OMG Yes” app. 1 time fee unlimited access. It’s women telling it like it is. There are women being interviewed and describing what they like. Some of them actually get naked and show the cam what they like. It’s not fake like porn. These are real women and I actually learned a few things.
Some women take a lot of foreplay to be ready for any vag play.
Start with lots of kissing while holding her. Occasionally let your hands stray to her butt- do not stop caressing her. Her back, her ribs, hips, ass. Touch her gently everywhere. Make her want it. Bad. You get the idea. When clothes start coming off - kiss all newly exposed skin. Shoulders to toes. Leave her panties on. Run your fingers just inside the waistband and around all the perimeter of them. Slowly. Touch her pussy super gently. Right at har clit. Then leave it alone.
The structure of the clit actually runs down both sides also. Trace the outer lips through her panties… several times. Then do it with more pressure. Maybe a light touch on her clit again… if she doesn’t jump when touching her clit by now, you haven’t found it…
Slowly work her panties off. Kissing all newly exposed skin. Once they are off far enough, reach in and lightly caress the whole pussy with 4 fingers. Concentrate on the sides with your outer fingers. Slowly rub your hand without allowing her shin to slide under you. Small circles, up and down and side to side.
Slowly see if your middle finger can get into the entrance… is she wet? If not, get your finger wet in your mouth and try again. Just put the tip inside. Then lightly caress her taint. There are lots of nerves there too.
Keep all of this up for at least 15-20 min. Keep kissing her mouth, neck, breasts, belly, etc. you’re creating WANT. If she’s not wet yet- get some lube. Don’t allow her to be embarrassed by not being wet. For them - it’s like us not getting it up.
Slide a finger in slowly. Then pull it out and gently trace the outline of her pussy. With your other hand pull the hood of her clit up and give it a lil lick. Very gentle. Then put your finger back in and use your other fingers to massage her lips. There’s lots of clitoral nerves in and behind them.
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