Girlfriend and I are booked into a hotel for two nights for a wedding, and because we don’t live together, this is a big opportunity for us and it’s been preconceived that we’ll be doing a lot of sexual stuff.
Is there anything anyone could say that’d help with the feeling of this being such a big chance that can’t be messed up? Maybe an anecdote or something you tell yourself in the same situation? Worried about not being able to get hard due to the worry of disappointment when sex has been discussed so much.
Thanks
I was in a similar situation few days ago, was on holidays with my girlfriend where sex was clearly expected.
Ultimately there is no right or wrong answer here, it’s natural to feel worried, in my case I pretty much avoided penetrative sex the first night and my girlfriend ended up concerned that I didn’t want to have sex with her for some reason at all, I told her about my concerns and she said regardless of potential failure she would still rather I try. I did try the next day and sadly it didn’t stay up but she was happier that at least I tried and showed intent.
To be honest it’s a choice between either regretting not trying or regretting trying, but I think it’s better to at least try regardless. Either way hope you have more success than I did, good luck and enjoy your time!
Oh and I know I am preaching to the choir here, but try to enjoy the actual time spent with her at the wedding, make the wedding the key point of the trip, not the potential sex.
I was in a similar situation recently. I’m dating someone, who I don’t live with, and I booked us a fancy hotel for what was clearly the chance to spend the day having sex.
I did build it up in my head, and was very nervous when we got under the sheets to the point I had to come clean about my performance anxiety because nothing was happening. So I went down on her, then used my hands and tongue. And then, started just concentrating on the sounds she was making, and watching her naked body writhe, and just let any anxiety float out of my head. Because there was no pressure anymore and I was enjoying the show and enjoying the sounds, I could get hard.
I’d advise 'observing’and letting anxious thoughts (that are inevitablr) pass out your mind like when doing meditation. Don’t engage with them. Really focus on what you can see (a beautiful naked woman, look at her breasts, look at her stomach rise and fall. Look at her thighs, her vulva, kiss her neck), listen to the little sounds she makes when you kiss her really passionately. Just try and tune in on what’s outside you, not your dick and not your thoughts.
Easier said than done, bit it’s possible and you can do it ! Have a great time, friend.