Discovery: being in sync and supporting each other unconditionally (without it becoming unhealthy)
Dream: feeling support, fulfilled, respected and desired
Design: be more assertive about my need and desires while being more honest with my partners instead of being passive to avoid conflict
Destiny: patience, honesty and humility to not take life and myself too seriously
Discovery: that we’re so emotionally connected and talk about our future a lot
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Discovery: that we’re so emotionally connected and talk about our future a lot.
Dream: live together in a house and have two children. Live together as a happy family and set a healthy example of good parenting
Design: start reading up on good parenting skills and how we can hone day plan for being parents
Destiny: do some reading of the same books together and discuss what we learnt
Discovery: when we are both harmoniously enjoying life and are contributing to each others happiness.
Dream: the best future I can hope for is one of the past
Design: I need to work on my anxiety and be able to relax and last longer.
Destiny: I am in therapy and working on my thoughts and using this app
Discover: I think back to days where the only thing we had in this life was each other. We were a solid foundation for one another.
Dream: I want to continue building on that foundation- where I am confident that this relationship won’t crumble due to outside influences.
Design: After reading this lesson, I realize how much I’m missing my wife’s bids. Although I hit them a lot when we work at home together or when she asks me to fix her a drink, there are many others I’m missing- when she says “I wonder how I should do X?” I can think of at least once this week where I missed an entire thought she had while I was playing on my phone. I need to be more present in my relationship. Period.
Destiny: making literal time in my day to be present. Making the conscious decision to put my phone in the other room, or disconnecting from all the gadgets.
Discovery: best parts are just hanging out and enjoying each other’s company, telling a joke, being goofy, having fun. I feel most connected when we’re this way.
Dream: I want to get back to the D1 moments. We are so busy with other activities, work, kids, that by the time the day is over we’re either tired or doing something that we, alone, would prefer to do.
Design: how to get here? I think I need to give up some of my “me” activities like gaming and other things that take me away either physically or mentally. That means i need to do a better job prioritizing my activities and do a better job prioritizing my relationship. I do want to keep and improve our check ins, even if they’re brief and can sometimes feel surface level, I feel like that’s ok sometimes.
Destiny: probably need to write down some goals and start to actively remove the items that can be a distraction like apps on phone, gaming subs, etc. Pick a couple “me” things. And commit to spending more quality time when we don’t have our own activities going.
Discovery: I think the best part of my current relationship is how well we communicate our needs as well as being willing to listen and make time for each other.
Dream: Out relationship is currently long distance with hopes to change that in the immediate future. Our day to day would be living the small moments in life together. Cooking together, supporting each others interests, attending and trying new things together, and growing together.
Design: He has offered to move down but I will need to figure out living situation before that happens. I think as well, making sure we are both on the same page about other aspects in life and both emotionally in the same page.
Destiny: I am committing to this by starting ti have more in-depth conversations about the future. Finding out where we both see ourselves and making sure we can align. I’m also preparing to help support the transition while moving to a new area.
Discover: we’re just starting our relationship, so every moment has been amazing to find out more about each other and how we connect.
Dream: I can see him as a partner for life. I want to invest in us so we can make that happen.
Design: we need to continue building our connections and quality time, and improve our communication when we’re apart.
Destiny: by being open about my needs and desires. By facing awkward conversations in an honest and light way, not a confrontational manner.
Discovery: we have silly fun together, support each other through hard times, and make space to explore new connections together and separately as part of a polyamorous relationship
Dream: we continue to find new adventures together. Our 1:1 dynamic feels both fresh and provides a stable base of support, even as we continue to explore with others
Design: we each need to own our needs and wants, and also invest in quality time together
Destiny: regular, open nonviolent communication
Discovery - Having someone there who supports me and motivates me to be a better person. Someone to hold me when I’m feeling down, without judgement.
Dream - A happy family with children and a home that we can call our own. Regular family holidays all over the country where we have fun and visit new places.
Design - I need to fight harder to overcome my anxiety. Stop my bad habit of ignoring problems and putting things off to avoid dealing with them.
Destiny - I need to support of my wife to help with this. Someone to keep my on track without pushing me. I also need some talking therapy, which i’m waiting on at the moment.
D1: spending time together doing activities we enjoy.
D2: building a family together whilst still enjoying our past times.
D3: meeting potential partners through going out, events and apps.
D4: set goals on how much i should do a week/month to put myself out there and meet new people.
Discovery: our love of similar things, doing fun stuff together, bonding, etc
Dream: a future where we fight less and are better at managing conflict/communicating before we have problems
Design: force communication to happen. Share our feelings, especially if something isn’t sitting right.
Destiny: commit by being mindful about your feelings. Stopping and thinking how you feel is a good way of starting these discussions
Discovery: the desire to be around each other, to act naturally without feeling the need to hold back, to support and lift each other
Dream: to grow together, learning new skills and hobbies, travelling to new and old places, build our castle
Design: clearer communication and connection building, balance between selfish and selfless acts, have my own space to live in and build from
Destiny: mindfulness training, confidence boosting, house purchase soon will help
Discovery: we’re best friends and have traveled the world together
Dream: continue a healthy romantic relationship and have a real future together
Design: I need to improve my open communication which will help me reduce performance anxiety and strengthen our intimacy level
Destiny: I’ve committed through this app to build confidence and face my anxiety head on. With the help of positive reinforcements and words of affirmation, I know I can overcome it.
Discover: connection, fun, trust, lust, calm and content.
Dream: a beautiful partner who loves me and I can trust to have my back no matter what.
Dd: keep exploring and looking for that person. Nuture trust and connection through experiences when I do find someone who is nice. Be open minded and proactive
Destiny: bravery and commitment at the right time
discovery: having someone to lean on, being best friends, enjoying life together, supporting each other through difficulties, feeling like you can trust each other completely
dream: being able to have a healthy sex life regardless of relationship status. maybe finding a strong bond with someone special that could turn into something serious
design: need to continue to lock in and work on myself, physically, mentally, and emotionally—which includes getting out of my comfort zone and putting myself out there. need to hold myself more accountable. i can expand by continuing to learn through Mojo and implementing the exercises like meditation to center myself.
destiny: commit by journaling to reflect on progress and accountability, share with trusted friends and lean on them
Discovery: It’s exhilarating being on an adventure with someone love. Life is bright and vibrant when we both are working together as a team.
Dream: I want us to compliment each others strengths and know and balance against our weaknesses. I want a life full of desire for each other. I want passion with the sex.
Design: I need to show up more as a partner and take more ownership within the relationship and household. We need to work on communicating our needs more clearly to each other.
Destiny: I will show more assertiveness and responsibility within the household. I will open myself to her bids for connection and show more to her. I will communicate truthfully and gently when there is a problem that needs addressed.
Discovery best part about relationship I have my person when I need to talk to someone or just to be Around all the joy and laughter we get from each other I love it
Dream I want us to work together as a couple and especially maybe do more exciting things in the bedroom for both of us to enjoy
Design I need to communicate way more than I usually do when something is event I don’t open up and my partner hates that I don’t want there to be downfall of my relationship
Destiny support for my girlfriend mostly we support each other right now she does a very good job at it
I have a beautiful woman who loves deep conversations as much as I do, we both share a growth mindset and balance each other’s extraneous traits out.
In the future, I want us to set goals together and achieve them together, travel the world, plus set goals for ourselves and celebrate each other’s successes. This can be buying a house together, running a marathon, changing careers, etc…
We both need to be brave to achieve our goals. We both procrastinate, I think due to fear of getting started, conditioned risk aversion or failing.
I need the support of people who have already achieved goals I want to achieve to guide me and reduce my fear. I also need to push myself and get used to going outside of my comfort zone, where I try new things on my own accord.