Discovery: Trusting, respecting, appreciating, desiring and supporting my partner (and vice versa)
Dream: A relationship with clear and open communication that is built on trust, respect, humour, humility and mutual growth.
Design: Committing to healthy and stable communication, being aware of projecting anxieties/fears/worries, showing humility and being open to constructive criticism, and being honest with the work I need to do for myself.
Destiny: A partner or partners that are willing to support me and be patient as I work on myself to have the confidence, clear mindlessness and humility to accomplish the above
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Discovery: always having someone there that supports you and your interests and understands the weird things about you
Dream: someone that understands me and the way I am and that can push me to be better
Design: I need tk start being more open and honest with myself and others and generally improve my confidence
Destiny: start doing the things j want to do and being more honest with myself
Discovery: the relationship I want now is open, highly sexual almost to the point of role play, and uncomplicated
Dream: Semi regular sex and aftercare, fun dates/activities, someone to explore my sexuality more with and build confidence.
Design: I need to disconnect love from sex in my psyche and allow myself to feel uncomfortable sometimes to really learn what I want/desire
Destiny: being upfront about expectations and needs and be honest with myself about my boundaries
Discovery: Communication is our best trait
Dream: We live together, debrief each of our work days, enjoy our hobbies and time with friends, and plan future adventures
Design: Start the debrief now, continue to spend time together and with friends, and start planning for a future now
Destiny: Talking about the goals in more detail versus top level so we can each determine how to get there
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Discovery: the fun, excitement, exclusiveness. The break in the ordinary daily to chill and vibe with someone
Dream
Destiny
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Discovery: communication, express wishes and need, but also ask open questions and look out for bids.
Dream: us still living and growing together, shared curiosity in life where we move forward together.
Design: look out for bids, break our individual and shared dreams down in smaker parts, follow up and reassess how we’re doing.
Desire: honest conversations, commitment, reminders. Vision.
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Discovery: The best parts are smiling, giggling, and the feeling of comfort that the other person provides irrespective of the situation
Dream: To always be “dating” each other. In other words, always finding ways to be cute and appreciative, even through ups and downs
Design: Nothing necessarily needs to change, rather, consistency and communication through the long term appears to be key
Destiny: Making this a priority. There’s a million and one things to do in life, and the only decision we make is what gets priority. The relationship always needs to stay a priority
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Discovery: having fun together, exploring together, strong support for each others’ interests
Dream: keep the relationship interesting, continue to date, continue to surprise each other and keep things exciting. Add more romantic acts and moments
Design: be consistent and deliberate about the relationship
Destiny: grow old together and still have that excitement about the relationship.
Discovery: I love how my partner makes me feel loved and appreciated. She will always make sure to text me and do her best to lift me up.
Dream: To have a family and to raise our child to be a good person.
Design: I need to be more accountable for my communication and be more aware of her.
Destiny: Making sure she knows how much I care and to have evenings where we talk about our days or anything that has affected us in the past.
D1: being parents
D2: being able to be more playful sexually and connect with my wife more.
D1: Shared interests. Being parents together. Shared humor.
D2: Physical connectedness without the attached anxiety. Emotional openness without judgement.
D3: I need to build trust with her and show her I am a safe person to connect with again.
D4: Daily steps and consistency. Don’t let a set back or turn down stop my commitment.
D1- • First night we met
• Party nights
• Date nights
• Relaxing together
• Actually
communicating
properly
D2- • Traveling
• Family
• Assets
• In short build an
EMPIRE!
D3- (Q1)
• Start a business or
get more
qualifications
• Put more $ away
(Q2)
• Applying for more
tickets and courses
• Get another job
• Foucsing more on
getting things done,
rather then getting
in my own head
• Possibly see a
therapist
(Q3)
• Working now, so
already started
saving
• Communicating
better
• Not overthinking
as much
D4- (Q1)
• Putting my head
head down
• Only be with people
that are gonna bring
positive vibes
• START STUDYING
EVERYTHING I NEED
TO KNOW!
(Q2)
• GOD🙏🏾
• Family
• Obviously my
PARTNER
• Community groups
( Church,Sports,Gym,
Charities.)
Discovery: First interactions, first few dates, sitting in the park together, first conversations where we opened up and worked through issues, sexual experiences where we felt connected, feeling supported and part of a team.
Dream: Owning a home together, decorating, splitting the workload, supporting each other, seeing her health improve, travelling together, having a vibrant social life.
Design: Communicate openly, share our dreams, establish routines that work, help her with chores, spend time together with friends, make time for simple dates, make time for travel.
Destiny: Agree a plan, agree timescales, commit to key actions.
Discovery: mutual understanding, eye gazing, embracing each other, listening, leaning into our differences, gentleness, laughing, learning and growing through each other
Dream: I don’t know. I’m kinda winging it. This all happened so suddenly and it’s new, so I haven’t put much thought into it and seeing where it goes. I think we both want to take our time.
Design: I need to dream first, I don’t think our relationship has any problems to address right now.
Discovery: Being able to just talk and laugh with someone. Feel safe enough to be yourself (inner child with them). Connect with them physically and attune with them emotionally. Take pride in supporting each other and working together well.
Dream: Find someone with whom I can share the above relationship with. Also build a family, have a steady financial situation, travel and explore the world a bit, but also enjoy routine and the small moments together. Satisfying sex life as well.
Design: Need to be calm and not catastrophize. Need to work slowly and deliberately on building good communication skills, becoming securely attached, becoming more playful and confident in the bedroom, and taking setbacks in stride. Trust that things will work out and this is not a linear journey
Destiny: Continue with mojo. See a sex therapist maybe just for re-assurance. Continue with attachment therapy. Get a job, and be in the same location as my partner. Keep up the good habits. Improve my sleep as well.
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Discovery:
Every time I meet her, and get to make her smile. I love when we are being silly joking about things just as much as when we’re cuddling together naked, making out.
Dream: living together, in a fun and vibrant city, in a nice and clean apartment, with a comfy sofa in front of a huge TV. We would take holidays every so often and never stop exploring, and going to concerts together regularly.
Design: devote more time into planning where we can achieve this - my current job and its location don’t line up up with what we want to do, so we need to find common ground. So, a new job in a new city on a better salary. In short, I need to push out of my comfort zone. And what I’m doing in the coming days reflects that.
Destiny:
I need support from my girlfriend, but also my family, who I feel might be judgy about what I commit to. But in the end, as long as we’re together, I don’t mind. We need to have a concrete plan together to make it work.
Discovery: My girlfriend finds me attractive and tries to impress me, being happy with my lover, having a vacation together, swimming, traveling the world, experiencing romance, lust, having great sex, learning things we don’t know in life together.
Dream: When I wake up, I want to fuck my lover wildly with my morning erection. And I want to kiss her lips and chat with her until I get up for breakfast, having romance. I want to work together, do housework. I want to do activities during the day, give my girlfriend a massage and fuck my lover at least 4 times a day when I get horny.
Design: I need to move to the country where she lives. I need to find a job in that country. I use my mind well, I can do research, make a plan to establish order in my lover’s country, I can ask her for advice on finding a job. I can make women happier and get closer to sex by learning to do professional massage.
Destiny: My girlfriend gives me advice on finding a job, I get lucky and life brings me the opportunities I want, I earn good money and reach the opportunities I want.
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Discovery: we get along well together and can have a laugh whilst also enjoying each others company in quiet, which suggests no awkwardness. Also feel quite safe round my partner.
Dream: definitely need to improve on communication and not let work stress rock the boat too much. We also need to make time for one another otherwise things Could fade
Destiny: more frequent chats, having the difficult conversations and also not worrying about what could/ might happen and rather staying present and enjoying what things are like now.
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Discovery: My wife cares about me, loves me, and wants me to be the best I can be. We work incredibly well as a team and are able to talk through problems and find solutions together.
Dream: We have pleasurable, rewarding sex regularly that continues to deepen the bond between us.
Design: Continue to communicate openly and honestly. Work on being vulnerable and letting her into an area of my life (sex) that I’ve walled off from her for years out of fear of judgement.
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The best parts of our relationship is sex, going on dates, having time together just ourselves, and just enjoying being with each other