I’m to scared or nervous to let her down in the bedroom and that actually makes me not want to do anything. It’s not that I don’t get hard for my girlfriend because I do and I am very sexually attracted to her and get hard pretty easily. I just don’t act on this said hardness or my sexual drive for her. She wants me to initiate sex and be more dominant but I just get so up in my head that sex always for the last couple of years have been the same thing, always her on top till I’m finished and then we are done. I can only last about 2-3 minutes and I think that’s also because I’m overthink things the whole time while I have sex. It feels great it’s just not what she wants so when I cum she just leaves and takes a shower or whatever. I want to feel more dominant and I want to last longer while giving her a show that she wants. Any advice on how to get the show started and show her that I’m the dominant man that she wants in the bedroom?
Go for it.
Be dominant. You don’t have to lead with your dick….
As she gets out of the shower put your fav bra and panties on the counter and say meet me in the bedroom…
Lights low. Candle. Music.
Embrace her. Kiss her passionately. Her neck, her shoulders, turn her around and kiss her back down to the top of her panties… rub her thighs, her ass, turn her around and plant a kiss on her pussy. Then kiss your way up to her mouth again. Once there motion for her to get on her knees on the pillow you just put down. Have her suck you for a few min. Then lay her down feet hanging off the bed. Grab a buzz toy and place it in her panties right on her clit. Lay on top of her and make out like teens. Make your way down her body to her pussy. Play with the toy a bit then pull the panties to the side. Lick and kiss all around but don’t touch her clit. Gently suck her lips. Lick the apex of her thighs. Spread her lips and lick as deep inside as you can while holding the vibe on her clit. Then reverse the toy and tongue. Put the toy in like 2” and use your tongue on her clit. Slow strokes with the toy. If you know where her g spot is, circle the toy on it. Do this for 10-15 min and hopefully she’ll cum a few times. Then ask her to suck you some more and then your 2/3 minutes of sex will be Icing on the cake!
I seriously appreciate this approach. Thank you.
No problem.
I suffer from ped as well. I found that the longer I extend foreplay and give her multiple orgasms, the less guilt or fear I have of letting her down if my erection is not cooperating….
She is super happy with my approach…. (Big grin!)