Wow I did it! As a single guy, for the first time since my relationship ended seven months ago I had an amazing sexual experience. It was one of my best ever sexual experiences, noting this was preceeded by one of my worst last month.
Here’s what helped it to work, perhaps this can give some encouragement to you.
- Did a Mojo exercise earlier in the day
- Reviewed my personal notes I have been taking (in my own words) on my sessions.
- Told the woman beforehand that sometimes I take a while to get hard and if I don’t it isn’t because of her, it’s a psychological thing I’m doing exercises for, that you may have to be patient, she was understanding.
- I didn’t know her that well, but well enough that I felt comfortable with her, had a good couple of days together prior.
- She was very good, she had a different foreplay to other women - she took the lead and went on top (deliberately no insertion yet). This allowed me to just focus on or enjoy the sensation and be present in the moment. I think the mojo soft penis exercises helped here as I was more comfortable with my penis being flaccid and with her touching it whilst so. It wasn’t so much a battle with my inner critic.
- There was a time when I felt like I was loosing hardness and could hear the inner critic piping up but I remembered that it is unlikely that any man is hard the whole time, and If I lose it, it is just part of the process.
So in short, I do believe the mojo exercises helped me, being open with my partner and her being understanding and good (at sex) also contributed. I know this does not mean it’s all behind me, but I’m content to keep working on it. Good luck brothers.