43yo, straight, married 20yrs, 2 kids under 13yo

My consistent erection issues started about 2 months ago. I have not been able to get hard enough for penetrative sex for about 2 months, and the last few times earlier, I wasn’t as hard as I used to be. I’m 43, my wife is 45 and we’ve got a 7yo and 11yo. We got married in our early 20s, and the I had never had a problem getting hard for her, or solo. I’ve had my share of mental health challenges over the years, namely a recurring major depressive disorder and GAD. About 3 years back, I started using SSRIs. At first they didn’t affect my erections, but when the had a dosage change, it shut down my erections. I then was switched to Wellbutrin, it didn’t help and I’ve been completely off MH meds altogether for 2 months, but still no erections when I want them. I can wake up with an erection, just not get one when I’m naked in bed with my wife, or attempting solo sex. Viagra and Cialis do little for me, as well. At about that two month ago mark, my urologist and I found my testosterone was on the lower side, not technically “low T”, but just a few numbers off. He started me on Clomid, and my testosterone was up to 709 total, 102.1 Free. And it’s been like that for a month. I want to have sex, I want to get off, and I want to give my wife the experience of penetrative sex, cause w both like it. I get her off in other ways and we’ve been opening up with each other around sex (I was raised is a very religious purity culture. My wife was not and had a couple sexual experiences before we got married in early 20s). My inner critic is an asshole who says pretty mean things to me. It’s all been an exhausting 2 months that I want to get through, already! This experience ring true for anyone? Any feedback?