I officially turn 40 this weekend. I’m not sure if I technically qualify as a virgin or not, because I have “attempted” sex a handful of times across the years, but my anxiety and inner critic have always prevented me from getting, or keeping it up (with a partner) for long enough, and I’ve always been dumped immediately afterwards.
Now, inexplicably, I find myself with an absolutely amazing girlfriend who despite my struggle so far is showing no signs of dumping me and only wants to help. We would both like to have a child together down the line, so that’s a slight pressure obviously, but I am feeling positive that there is hope for the first time.
I wish you and your gf a happy and healthy relationship.