29 years old, cannot maintain a hard erection during sex when girlfriend is on top

🍆 Erection issues
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What I am struggling with when having sex with my partner (and doing the different exercises on the app) is maintaining the firmness of my erection, it can sometimes be really hard, and other times it’s 70-80% hard.

I am 29, fit, healthy (also a type 1 diabetic), don’t smoke or any of that stuff. Stopped watching porn months ago (will watch the odd video here and there), have sex with my partner 1-3 times a week, both of us are able to cum, but I cannot seem to stay hard when she is ontop.

There is always a desire to have sex on my end, so I don’t think my libido isn’t flatlining, but sometimes my erection isn’t fully there or it can just fade away, especially when ever my partner is on top. My partner is extremely supportive, but I can see it’s impacting her confidence, which in turn upsets me.

I’ve been using mojo for about 4 months now (daily - doing kegals daily, and a mix of exercises and meditation) and haven’t seen much of an impact, so I’m thinking it’s my mind that’s the issue.

Does anyone have experience in erections disappearing, or not being firm enough, particularly when you change sex position?

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I also struggle with women on top, mainly because the angle they like my dick to be in them is uncomfortable for me and I get nervous that they’re going to bend it the wrong way so I end up focusing on that and my dick ends up getting a bit softer.

I discussed with some of my partners and they’re fine with it being less hard because being on top they’re normally getting off by rubbing ther clit on me anyway.

A bit graphic but hopefully illustrates the point that there’s no need to freak out about it!

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