Although part of my issues stem from a lower back that is close to a 60 year olds and I’m only 37. I’ve come to realize the other part is mental. I’ve gone soft on her enough times in the last year, which makes her get super disappointed and then she practically scolds me each time. Now I’m at the point where I’m worried it’ll happen and she’ll get mad, so then of course it does. We’ve been together 21 years and unfortunately she couldn’t be less supportive when I need her the most. I should note we have great sex 70%-80% of the time. But the 20% hurts. And not in a fun way.
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Man that’s tough.
I was marketed to ‘Frosty the Snow wife’ also. To the point I wouldn’t want to start anything because I didn’t want to let her or myself down. She thought it was because she didn’t look like she did 25 yrs ago. Couldn’t understand when I told her otherwise. I wish I found this app a decade ago.
She’s gone and I’m with a wonderful supportive woman now.
I wish I had more positive advice.
Maybe involve her in this app?
Good luck man!!
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Involving her until the app is a good call. Clear communication is the best solution here, and involving her in these exercises is a good place to start. Best of luck
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Maybe take her to your Urologist so he can explain? That it’s not her?
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Thanks for the support! I’ll do my best to involve her in this app as much as possible. 
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I know it’s difficult, my wife would get frustrated with me too when I’d finish too early and be mad and wouldn’t let me try to do anything else for her. That just piles the pressure on and creates more stress, which makes it more likely to happen again. Try some of the meditation exercises, those helped me get out of my head. Also talk to her and tell her it’s not her fault, and that you’re trying to work on it. It’s best to have low pressure situations and keep trying. Good luck!