Felt like progress, setback this morning

💭 Mental health
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Been using Mojo for over a month, in combination with discussions with my psychologist. I have also been doing a variety of pelvic floor exercises beyond what’s in the app to deal with some physical issues with my hips.

When I signed up with Mojo it was shortly after a very awkward sex session with my wife while on vacation when I couldn’t get hard. Subsequent times in the bedroom were better in the ensuing weeks. Then this morning I couldn’t stay hard. I could just tell heading into it that I was going to get into my head, so bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. My wife is losing patience with me because she thinks that I should be talking to my doctor (ED meds or anti-anxiety meds, test for low Testosterone etc), not self diagnosing and buying apps, and convincing myself I can just figure it out on my own. I’ve been doing that for years in various ways with minimal progress.

I called my doctor right after to rip that band-aid of but turns out they are on indefinite medical leave :flushed: so now I’m lost where to turn next.

I’m 90% sure this is a mental thing, but my wife is losing confidence because I keep trying the same or similar strategies with minimal or at least unreliable success.

Any advice on how to move forward?

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I agree with your wife. Skip your PCP and go right for a urologist. It’s that simple. They will do the right tests not just for T but also any other medical conditions that could be causing this. They see this all day every day.

You also clearly need to find a new PCP, and likely should have a physical (while also keeping up with them yearly).

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I didn’t read a mention of this being an issue in your past. If this is the forst time in your relationship you are experiencing some form of ED it’s probably not medical. Do you still get erections and night or during solo masterbating? If yes, it’s probably psychological. For some, it takes one bad experience to negate a lifetime of success. Communicating with your partner, reducing stress, exercise, and be patient.

I’d reccomend doing the sensations excerises and including her in it.
Practices your box breathing and start fighting your inner critic.
Remember all the times you were successful. Enjoy the experience of sexually without intercourse maybe for a while. Go down on eachother and have fun.

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